I don't know if this will help you, but I often feel lonely in the same way; sort of scared of losing my best years to observing from the periphery. I Just wanted to say, I think people build up a lot in their minds that prevent them from making healthy changes, like the casual encounters some of us take for granted... it can be seem overwhelming especially after several failed attempts; rejection is hard, and in the face of that, its really easy to just stick with what we're used to (i.e. our comfort zones, despite recognizing that something is missing). You'd be surprised at how convincing and how powerful your own inner monologue is; it can be a tool to reinforce a long believed in thought, or it can liberate you from restrictive and unhealthy patterns in life. The problem is that it's yours alone to change, as much or as little as you can handle.
Yes, I know what your talking about when you say "monologue". I sometimes feel like I'm splitting apart, splitting in half so that theres more than one me, so that I don't feel so alone. :-( I do feel I make an effort with people to attempt to change things for myself, for the better, but friends I make never last even when I make an effort to keep in touch. I just don't know what I'm doing wrong...
Is it normal to be 21 and THIS lonely?
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I don't know if this will help you, but I often feel lonely in the same way; sort of scared of losing my best years to observing from the periphery. I Just wanted to say, I think people build up a lot in their minds that prevent them from making healthy changes, like the casual encounters some of us take for granted... it can be seem overwhelming especially after several failed attempts; rejection is hard, and in the face of that, its really easy to just stick with what we're used to (i.e. our comfort zones, despite recognizing that something is missing). You'd be surprised at how convincing and how powerful your own inner monologue is; it can be a tool to reinforce a long believed in thought, or it can liberate you from restrictive and unhealthy patterns in life. The problem is that it's yours alone to change, as much or as little as you can handle.
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Yes, I know what your talking about when you say "monologue". I sometimes feel like I'm splitting apart, splitting in half so that theres more than one me, so that I don't feel so alone. :-( I do feel I make an effort with people to attempt to change things for myself, for the better, but friends I make never last even when I make an effort to keep in touch. I just don't know what I'm doing wrong...