Is it normal to be 20 and bored with life?

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Hi everyone,

As the title says, I'm a 20 year-old girl and I'm damn bored with life.

I have a few friends, since I moved in a new town 2 years ago, but I'm still not happy. The only friends I have are pretty busy compared to me. They all have a job right now (and go figure they all have boyfriends), so it seems I'm always the one being called after.

I'm in my third year of study, and I'm myself looking for a job for this summer. This session is harder, since instead of having 35 hours of class a week, I've got only like 10 lol. I think it is very sudden, to change a routine like this. I'm so used to study, and now the free time I have is driving me crazy, since I feel so lonely.

Althought I'm a nice, confident good-looking (well, let's say average then) sporty girl, I feel there is not a lot of opportunities in my life. It seems like everyday is the same, and nothing happens. When I go on Facebook, I feel depressed cuz every random people I counted as «friends» seem to be doing something almost every night.

I would like to party, but with who?. I want to go out, meet new people. Meet guys. I've always been the serious type. But It seems to me that I rarely get an occasion to party (my 2-3 friends always been busy with studies and boyfriends). I'm so tired of this. The only thing I hold on to is my sport. I even train myself too much because I'm in love with this and it makes me feel good about myself.

At least there is a lot of cute guys at the boxing gym I go,so maybe I could try talking to them more or something.

Oh well, sorry for that never-ending story.

Thank you

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  • Tortugah
    12 years ago | pl

    I don't know why, but it seems like a lot of people around that age feel like life is only in that moment. Like any plans or hopes that you have must be accomplished right now or you'll never be able to do it. When actually life is so much more than just what you are currently living.

    For instance, I myself used to want to travel the world and learn a lot of things and live a whole life of interesting experiences (well, I still do), and I was sad because I felt that I had not done anything to fulfill those dreams. Then I realized that i have a lot of life still left ahead of me and I am already having interesting experiences that I wasn't noticing due to being too sad about "not living".

    You are young and you seem nice, I bet you have a lot to offer and you are probably just thinking too much. I would advice to ponder on the things that matter in your life, change what you don't like, embrace what you can't change, and just face the world with the knowledge that you can learn from EVERYTHING, good or bad, and that learning will make you grow as a person. We should try to be at peace with our past, learn from the present, and hope for the future.

    I hope I didn't rant for too long, and that I was helpful to you, or anyone else for that matter. Good luck!

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  • jensapa
    12 years ago | pl

    Yeh go for the guys at the gym. Or do some volunteer work. It will fill your time an u will meet new people.

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    • Lia
      12 years ago | pl

      What are you studying? :) The fact that you are studying something means you have ambitions for the future, so life won't always be like it is at the moment. Are there any people in your classes you can try hanging out with, if your other friends are too busy?

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  • scumfuck
    10 years ago | pl

    just go to a good party get a little wasted you will make loads of friends

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  • -WhySoSerious-
    12 years ago | pl

    If you live in America get to know the international students in your university. International students in America are not allowed to work outside campus, and most of them don't have a job anyway.

    I'm an international student, and I tell you, international students love to party.

    There would be many Europeans and many Middle Easterners in all US universities, those people love to party.

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  • Elias189
    12 years ago | pl

    The ones who prefer their boy friends on you all the time arn't really your friends, cuz if they are, they would go out with you more often. So you can either look for new better friends or find a boy friend at the gym or spend your good time with family and relatives!

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  • youdneverguess
    12 years ago | pl

    It keeps changing it's just because you feel like an adult but there are still things you can't do

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  • rayst
    12 years ago | pl

    Lol gems here is telling us the almost-worst case scenario, but since you only have 10 hours of classes a week, you're right to want to go out. Go speak to the guys you like at the gym! The fact that they didn't try to talk to you doesn't mean they're not interested. But dont start going out too frequently, too many good girls i know fell into that "nightlife" and have now no ambitions whatsoever for the real life

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  • CreativeThinker
    12 years ago | pl

    @Tortugah is absolutely correct

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