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My gf and I have been dating for over two years. For the first year of our relationship our sex life was very active. Somewhere around the two year mark it stopped almost completely. We have sex maybe once a month sometimes less. Is it normal to be 21 in a serious relationship and have a very slow sex life?
noooo it's not normal. you two should be getting it on like rabbits. you two are becoming use to each other or she is cheating on you.
When you are in a serious long relationship you rely on more than sex there should be something else there but sex is important
It happens, sex is usually the first thing to go when your relationship is going down hill. The same thing happened to me when I was 22.
I'm 20 in a 1 yr relationship. And since the beginning we didn't have alot of sex to begin with. We had sex maybe 3 times to 4 times amonth. We were more focused on eachother than we were on the sex. 100% normal!
This happened to me and my husband soon after we got married at 21 years old. He had lost a brother in an accident and was very depressed. He never wanted sex and it made me feel very insecure and it was a huge trial on our marriage. Over time, we got through it together and he has been able to work through the loss of his brother- and now we want sex every single day! So there is a good chance that one or both of you could be suffering from depression.
Be careful to let her know its not her fault because even if it is not a bog deal to you, she could be feeling extremely insecure about the situation. Work together and you will get through it. Good luck!
I am 25 and having the same problem. Having a husband who seldom wants sex makes me feel about 20 years older and I am regularly surprised when someone reminds me that I am still very young.
This issue seems like it shouldn't be hitting us so early but I'm kind of relieved to see that many others my age are dealing with the same issue.
Also, to those that go straight to cheating...I know cheating is a well known problem but I'd sooner suspect depression and stress before infidelity.
If it stopped so suddenly, and at that age. She's probably cheating on you or has cheated on you. Girls at that age are swayed easily and some other dude is probably diverting her sex drive elsewhere.. if you get what I mean.
Unfortunately in my opinion it is normal for couples in long-term relationships. In fact, it sucks but this happens all the time. I've heard this story from other people. I have been with someone for several years and we only have sex once a month - and usually only if I initiate it. And the sex has gotten boring and repetitive for both of us. I can totally see why people have affairs. Although I haven't had one, I think about it all the time. So your situation is normal if undesired. I hope this helps!
I had the same problem, but I was 32 taking over a 4m$ family bussines , my father was in a hospital , her father was on cancer threatment & most propably we where in depresion. ( non diagnosed ...)
Dude. I'm 21. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years and we are having the exact same problem. We used to have sex like 3 times a day. I don't know what made us stop but I am so happy to hear it's happening with someone else.
I think it can be normal if you guys have a full, busy and stressful lifestyle. It's not fun but life can bring ya down and sex might be the last thing on your mind.