Is it normal to always have feelings for your first love?

Sometimes in order to move on in life and be happy,we have to let go of the things that slow us down,but give of the illusion of happiness.

I still have feelings for my first love. And it was 27 yrs ago. I was 16, he was 18. I found him on fb about a yr ago. We have seen each other a couple of times. And we talk on messenger. He doesnt want a relationship. It hurts and im dealing with it. I think what im feeling is a mix of rejection, fond memories and that first love feeling. Im feeling hurt and mixed feelings.

Call him! It can't hurt to try, what do you have to lose? Better yet, think of what you have to gain! Friendships are precious gifts, and should be treated as such. He may be thinking about you and hoping you will get in touch with him! You won't ever know "what could have been..." unless you try!

I have to say that I am in a very stable and great relationship and although my life is such, I have a dear buddy whom isn't around anymore( because I have such a wonderful relationship), and I loved him from the day I met him! He was mine always even though we only dated for a short 8 months as pre-teens. He dated others as well as I and I even got married and stayed in that marriage the whole time wanting no one but him! At first I though mmm, obsession maybe??? But as time went on I learned it was about not letting go of my own personal desires. He made me so happy even though he put my through jell at times just being such a close friend. Until one day when I decided to leave my ex-husband I decided in my heart to leave him too. The way I figured it was that in all the years he never through me a commitment though he could have in all the times we" hooked-up"... So I thought that maybe friends with good memories is all we were supposed to be. But I must admit that I never want my relationship of now, to end. Though if ever it does, that special friend is going to get a call from me because instead of searching out a new I rather try my luck on someone whom I've had numerous wonderful memories with and someone who would always have my back if I needed him! This may never happen and I hope it doesn't, but we can never predict what is going to happen until one day- it just does, and then as nature has it you go back to relying on ur basic instincts of what u used to depend on. Call him- it couldn't hurt. But if you don't and you find yourself with someone else, make sure u r willing to completely let go of him to have anything stable with a new love. Learned this the hard way! Good luck!

It seems many keep a special place in there heart forever, for there first true love, and that is fine. But what isn't, that you have not seek him out and told him. Or even let yourself reunite with him, to see if your feelings have changed! Good luck with your choices!

Get in touch with him - it may just ease your nerves to see he is ok, and you never know, he may even be single. A perfect opportunity to tell him how you feel!! Best if luck!