"The ego is your enemy, not your friend. It is the ego that gives you wounds and hurts you. It is the ego that makes you violent, angry, jealous, competitive. It is the ego that is continuously comparing and feeling miserable." - Osho
"All troubles come to an end when the ego dies." - Ramakrishna
No one belongs to anyone, and you don't belong to anyone either. Get over yourself, try meditation or something that will help you get over the situation. Or the way you feel might poison your future. Focus on the present, not on the past.
On a side note, you should understand she probably had her first time with someone else than you to PROTECT herself. Womens first times are generally different; (our first times feel wierd anyway - I don't know of any woman who ENJOYED her first nouki, seriously. It either hurts like hell or it's awkward, not as good as we imagined... But as years go by we enjoy it all the more) . All I know is I didn't want to have sex with my first love because I knew it would be too memorable and I didn't want him to have that kind of power over me. So I had sex with a "decent" guy, I was assured wouldn't hurt me, because I was not in love with him.
Is it normal this still hurts?(her first time)
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Allow me to share some quotes on the ego:
"The ego is your enemy, not your friend. It is the ego that gives you wounds and hurts you. It is the ego that makes you violent, angry, jealous, competitive. It is the ego that is continuously comparing and feeling miserable." - Osho
"All troubles come to an end when the ego dies." - Ramakrishna
No one belongs to anyone, and you don't belong to anyone either. Get over yourself, try meditation or something that will help you get over the situation. Or the way you feel might poison your future. Focus on the present, not on the past.
On a side note, you should understand she probably had her first time with someone else than you to PROTECT herself. Womens first times are generally different; (our first times feel wierd anyway - I don't know of any woman who ENJOYED her first nouki, seriously. It either hurts like hell or it's awkward, not as good as we imagined... But as years go by we enjoy it all the more) . All I know is I didn't want to have sex with my first love because I knew it would be too memorable and I didn't want him to have that kind of power over me. So I had sex with a "decent" guy, I was assured wouldn't hurt me, because I was not in love with him.