This sort of "morality" implies that you have some sort of claim of ownership over her, and it really is not healthy.
She's pregnant with your child, therefore you guys have probably been having sex for a while, therefore you knew she wasn't a virgin and still decided to continue onward in the relationship to the point of choosing to have children. If you ask me if this was such a big issue you shouldn't have let it go this far if you had no plans on changing your ideas of "morality" and are going to hold something ridiculous against her.
I understand why a lot of people see it as special, but honestly I think it's kind of overrated. My first time wasn't anything great, it was awkward and kinda uncomfortable because we had no idea what we were doing.
I think it would be better if we as a society didn't make it into such a huge glorious thing, then casualties such as yourself wouldn't be an occurance.
Honestly just let it go, whenever you think about it just... think about something else. Weaken that connection in your brain by not dwelling on it. I think my cat just threw up but that's irrelevant. The past shouldn't matter... it doesn't exist anymore. You love her as she is. Who knows? That previous relationship could have been a defining moment in her life, she may not be the person she is, may not have walked the same life path were it not for that. You never know what would happen, sometimes the smallest choices we make most greatly effect our future. Be happy for where you are now. Experiences make you who you are, but the person we are is always changing. I've had 3 different bodies already in this lifetime. (every 7 years youll have shed and regrown every cell in your body). Basically, in the grand scheme of things you're trying to climb and anthill. Just step over it instead, move on and be happy.
Thanks, that was really well said. :)
I guess I just have to define certain things that I'm afraid to define. It is a small matter compared to everything else the woman I love has given me.
Is it normal this still hurts?(her first time)
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This sort of "morality" implies that you have some sort of claim of ownership over her, and it really is not healthy.
She's pregnant with your child, therefore you guys have probably been having sex for a while, therefore you knew she wasn't a virgin and still decided to continue onward in the relationship to the point of choosing to have children. If you ask me if this was such a big issue you shouldn't have let it go this far if you had no plans on changing your ideas of "morality" and are going to hold something ridiculous against her.
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It's not a claim ownership to wish to have shared a moment with her which is a very special moment in life. It's not an ego thing.
I don't hold it against her. But I do blame something, whether that's fate or god or whatever I don't know.
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I understand why a lot of people see it as special, but honestly I think it's kind of overrated. My first time wasn't anything great, it was awkward and kinda uncomfortable because we had no idea what we were doing.
I think it would be better if we as a society didn't make it into such a huge glorious thing, then casualties such as yourself wouldn't be an occurance.
Honestly just let it go, whenever you think about it just... think about something else. Weaken that connection in your brain by not dwelling on it. I think my cat just threw up but that's irrelevant. The past shouldn't matter... it doesn't exist anymore. You love her as she is. Who knows? That previous relationship could have been a defining moment in her life, she may not be the person she is, may not have walked the same life path were it not for that. You never know what would happen, sometimes the smallest choices we make most greatly effect our future. Be happy for where you are now. Experiences make you who you are, but the person we are is always changing. I've had 3 different bodies already in this lifetime. (every 7 years youll have shed and regrown every cell in your body). Basically, in the grand scheme of things you're trying to climb and anthill. Just step over it instead, move on and be happy.
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Thanks, that was really well said. :)
I guess I just have to define certain things that I'm afraid to define. It is a small matter compared to everything else the woman I love has given me.