Her issues are physical health, and a lot of it. Mentally, is ok, smart, but can have, what I see as, an immaturity streak; She's been a homeowner before (as I've been for many years now), had a full time job before the health stuff, is responsible, and, would make a great wife. We could do so well together, health problems and all, yet..The health stuff, her mom, and crazy-ass neighbors hold her back. Lives in a little Peyton Place-type neighborhood, where I pull up to her house and the window drapes are slightly open, so people can see who I am even though they all know me by now.
They have long-time feuds with each other, I have to turn my headlights off when go to her house at night, because next-door neighbor complained about my headlights in her living room one night, other neighbor is a skank and welfare cheat..I can give her a much better life with me, if she'd take it. So far, she has not.
I'm sorry, it really sounded like she had some mental problems even though she might not realise it...
what exactually bothers you most about this situation? It sounds like she doesn't really care about getting in a better situation. You say you want to give her a better life but you also mentioned she isn't capable to have a long time relationship. Why is that?
She doesn't have any mental health issues, other than being driven crazy by her mom. It's all physical health, and again..Lots of it.
That's one of the things I think or fear; That she's so deep into this situation with mom, the neighborhood drama and gossip (much as she says hates it..knows an awful lot about it, as the neighbors do her), and still feels so burned by her ex and health that she doesn't see herself as capable of a better life. Kind of stuck and that's it.
I'm reaching a point of, for myself, "shit of get off the pot" with her. I'm invested and do love her, however, if this is it, status-wise for us, i.e.- her situation, my wanting to help it but not going anywhere, need to re-think it.
IIN that..Woman I've been dating for years won't add me on sm?
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Her issues are physical health, and a lot of it. Mentally, is ok, smart, but can have, what I see as, an immaturity streak; She's been a homeowner before (as I've been for many years now), had a full time job before the health stuff, is responsible, and, would make a great wife. We could do so well together, health problems and all, yet..The health stuff, her mom, and crazy-ass neighbors hold her back. Lives in a little Peyton Place-type neighborhood, where I pull up to her house and the window drapes are slightly open, so people can see who I am even though they all know me by now.
They have long-time feuds with each other, I have to turn my headlights off when go to her house at night, because next-door neighbor complained about my headlights in her living room one night, other neighbor is a skank and welfare cheat..I can give her a much better life with me, if she'd take it. So far, she has not.
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I'm sorry, it really sounded like she had some mental problems even though she might not realise it...
what exactually bothers you most about this situation? It sounds like she doesn't really care about getting in a better situation. You say you want to give her a better life but you also mentioned she isn't capable to have a long time relationship. Why is that?
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She doesn't have any mental health issues, other than being driven crazy by her mom. It's all physical health, and again..Lots of it.
That's one of the things I think or fear; That she's so deep into this situation with mom, the neighborhood drama and gossip (much as she says hates it..knows an awful lot about it, as the neighbors do her), and still feels so burned by her ex and health that she doesn't see herself as capable of a better life. Kind of stuck and that's it.
I'm reaching a point of, for myself, "shit of get off the pot" with her. I'm invested and do love her, however, if this is it, status-wise for us, i.e.- her situation, my wanting to help it but not going anywhere, need to re-think it.