Is it normal that while i fantasise about being extremely...

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Masochistic, I'm sort of frightened to explore too deeply. With boyfriends, I've enjoyed rough sex, spanking, tying up, various minor sadist/masochist things. However, I fantasise about being used a lot more, and just a little bit further into the realm. My question fundamentally is, is it normal to want this but to be wary of it? I long for someone to just do it rather than ask and prepare me for it beforehand...

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  • Avant-Garde
    12 years ago

    It's normal, but by "further" I'm guessing you mean "edge play". Edge Play is more risky and if you're going to do it then I strongly suggest you go to a professional. Whether it be a pro-Dom or a dominator. You need someone where you can trust them that they know what they're doing, not some novice. I also suggest that you read up on it a bit more.

    Good Luck!

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  • TerryVie
    12 years ago

    I think it's very normal.

    ASIDE from the "terrain" inherently justifying that you want more, but are "wary" at the same time, it's very nature also suggest that it only feels true and intense if someone just does, instead of preparing.

    When i am with man, i like feeling used. I also like rough sex. For me, it's somewhat like a rape fantasy. I just want it to happen, spontaneous. If i plan it exactly beforehand and get told what will happen when, it's no longer the same kind of enjoyable.

    So yes, i think it's perfectly normal that you want to go further into your fetish, but WANT to be "pushed" or rather "dragged" there.

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  • Ramit10
    12 years ago

    I've always wanted to do that kind of stuff but all the girls says thats weird and they arent into that so I thought I was the weird one wanting to do that to girls. I think its very normal but thats just me

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  • Plump_breasted_pigeon
    12 years ago

    I don't really like the idea of the whole safe word and proper bondage S&M stuff, I'm not sure I feel really confused, I feel like all I want is to be really used and generally seen as more of an object, but I'm not specifically interested in that sort of thing, I think it'd be extremely planned with a professional and I think its more a mindset in a male I'd have to find than see a professional, but thanks for you advice :)

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  • Plump_breasted_pigeon
    12 years ago

    Also I feel the same about the sort of fantasies you've described, planning really kills it for me :/

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  • Plump_breasted_pigeon
    12 years ago

    Thats a very insightful response and it makes perfect sense, thank you (:

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