Is it normal that we hardly communicate?
How much communication with your significant other is enough? My boyfriend of three years goes to law school at night and I work all day and so during the week we hardly talk. I tried calling him during the week but he just sounds stressed out and frustrated from school and that makes me sad and not want to talk to him because it sounds like he doesn't want to talk to me. I usually only get a "goodnight I love you" text at night from him anymore. We see each other on the weekends, which I reserve for him because I miss him so much but we don't get to hang out if he has made plans with his friends. I know he never gets to see them too, but I feel like ever since we graduated from undergrad we don't communicate as much and him being a total dude feels like we are fine, but when I talk to him about how I feel and how I need quality time with him he takes it personally and gets defensive and says things like "that really hurts my feelings when you say that because I want you to be happy and I feel like there isn't anything else I can do to make you happy".
I love him and I know he loves me so I would hate for this one thing to ruin us, but I don't know how to get more --or at least a normal level of communication-- or approach it without offending him... What would you say? Thanks!!!