Many of you who have responded here are too harsh and too quick to judge. Consider that something like 28% of men have affairs and nearly the same for women, and it is likely that this is figure is below the real number. Men and women cheat for different reasons, but here we have a women who is cheating for the reason that men normally give, that is as follows.
She loves her husband, she cares about him and wants a life with him. She respects him and values him, but something is missing in their sex life OR she simply needs a variety of partners to be fulfilled. BUT the problem is that he will not agree and so she is caught with the choice of breaking up their marriage and hurting him and herself that way, or having meaningless sex in secret in order to be able to get through life and keep their otherwise loving relationship intact. Many many married men have been using prostitutes to achieve the exact same thing for thousands of years.
Let is not condemn her but offer her advise in her dilemma. I would say that begin a process of normalizing the idea of this by using fantasy stories of you being with other men during sex, and get him to cum while you tell him about you being fucked hard and loving it. Soon he will become very turned on by the idea at least in fantasy. I would then bite the bullet and confess to just one affair that happened just once and never mention the others. He will still probably explode with anger and feel betrayed and may leave you ofcourse, but his newly found taste for thinking of you getting pounded by another guy will kick in and he will be torn between wanting to scream at you and tell you to fuck off, and wanting to grab you and fuck you hard while you tell him about the experience. If the latter happens then this may eventually lead to him allowing you to ocassionally fuck other men in a cuckold type lifestyle which frankly is the lifestyle you really need rather than swinging. I feel for your situation, and I wish you all the best.
is it normal that thinkin about having sex with other men turns me on?
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Many of you who have responded here are too harsh and too quick to judge. Consider that something like 28% of men have affairs and nearly the same for women, and it is likely that this is figure is below the real number. Men and women cheat for different reasons, but here we have a women who is cheating for the reason that men normally give, that is as follows.
She loves her husband, she cares about him and wants a life with him. She respects him and values him, but something is missing in their sex life OR she simply needs a variety of partners to be fulfilled. BUT the problem is that he will not agree and so she is caught with the choice of breaking up their marriage and hurting him and herself that way, or having meaningless sex in secret in order to be able to get through life and keep their otherwise loving relationship intact. Many many married men have been using prostitutes to achieve the exact same thing for thousands of years.
Let is not condemn her but offer her advise in her dilemma. I would say that begin a process of normalizing the idea of this by using fantasy stories of you being with other men during sex, and get him to cum while you tell him about you being fucked hard and loving it. Soon he will become very turned on by the idea at least in fantasy. I would then bite the bullet and confess to just one affair that happened just once and never mention the others. He will still probably explode with anger and feel betrayed and may leave you ofcourse, but his newly found taste for thinking of you getting pounded by another guy will kick in and he will be torn between wanting to scream at you and tell you to fuck off, and wanting to grab you and fuck you hard while you tell him about the experience. If the latter happens then this may eventually lead to him allowing you to ocassionally fuck other men in a cuckold type lifestyle which frankly is the lifestyle you really need rather than swinging. I feel for your situation, and I wish you all the best.