Perhaps you feel unsettled because you treated her unfairly.
After all, she only "hinted" that she "kind of wanted" to be an "exotic dancer or nude model." In reality she behaved in a reserved and conservative manner about sex.
She likely shared this little fantasy with you and your mom quite innocently. Most of us have fantasies about being a sensation in something at which we're not so great.
You, however, do not seem so tolerant exaggerating what she hinted at into a far more lurid stripper/porn star career path. And saying it'd be OK "if" your friends were strippers, but not your gf, is just a big smoke screen. Sure you would. Not.
This is about hubris. Yours. She shared her little fantasy and Mommy disapproved. Ouch. She now wasn't perfect. Ouch again.
You dumped an "amazing relationship" over some tiny misunderstanding. Talk about an inflated sense of your own importance and pride.
It's not about her perfection. It's about your intolerance. You are long past having strong feelings for her. You blew it, and that is what you can't get over. But hey, no none's perfect.
So while others say get over it, I'd suggest get over yourself.
IIN that the memory of my ex wanting to be a stripper hurts me?
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Perhaps you feel unsettled because you treated her unfairly.
After all, she only "hinted" that she "kind of wanted" to be an "exotic dancer or nude model." In reality she behaved in a reserved and conservative manner about sex.
She likely shared this little fantasy with you and your mom quite innocently. Most of us have fantasies about being a sensation in something at which we're not so great.
You, however, do not seem so tolerant exaggerating what she hinted at into a far more lurid stripper/porn star career path. And saying it'd be OK "if" your friends were strippers, but not your gf, is just a big smoke screen. Sure you would. Not.
This is about hubris. Yours. She shared her little fantasy and Mommy disapproved. Ouch. She now wasn't perfect. Ouch again.
You dumped an "amazing relationship" over some tiny misunderstanding. Talk about an inflated sense of your own importance and pride.
It's not about her perfection. It's about your intolerance. You are long past having strong feelings for her. You blew it, and that is what you can't get over. But hey, no none's perfect.
So while others say get over it, I'd suggest get over yourself.