I feel sorry for this guy. Try for a second to see his perspective:
So you kicked him out the house just because he wanted to hang out with his friends. Thereby pushing him to the edge and into drugs. He tries to find some love in the arms of a "whore" after YOU borke up with him! Now you blame him for having a crisis and don't offer any help. He still gets his shit together on his own and keeps fighting for you.
Was it the right thing to take him back? I don't know, it seems like you're not too good for him. In a relationship you help and love each other thorugh good and rough times!
I don't know you and I don't want to hurt you, but you have to start seeing your own flaws in order to truly love someone.
Exactly that's why I kicked him out cause I knew he had been using drugs I kicked him out thinking well ok maybe he would actually stop drugs and come back home not go out there use it even more and fuck another whore then decides to go to rehab and come back!
I definitely get how upsetting this would be and how hard it would be to get over. But I agree with everyone else when they say you have to let it go or end the relationship. It does sound like he loves you and has made a big effort to better himself. People can change. Make sure that photo is deleted (I'm not really sure why you would save it) and move on. Good luck.
No I kicked him out cause I knew he was using drugs and I thought maybe he would actually stop and understand how mad I was for him that he was using drugs but instead he went afterwards used drugs even more intensively sleeping with this girl and then deciding he needed to stop drugs and go to rehab and come back? I mean why would he get mad when I kicked him out, using drugs and sleeping with this girl then later realizing oh ya well let me go to rehab and come apologize !!
I was angry the point is now a year later he did change and he stopped drugs and all, I was angry writing this post cause as I mentioned I was came across that photo of him kissing the girl and felt I needed to express my anger. I mean it hurt me I think about her everyday even tho I know that happened a year ago and things are perfectly fine with us now I still have that constant fear of him cheating on me..
Get over it or tell him you're not over it. You kicked him out he wasnt with you anymore he could fuck whoever he wanted. Thats what it means when you throw out someone's shit and lock them out of their house. He never cheated on you, and if he was doing coke he probably fucked more like 50 whores not just 1 lol
He never cheated on you in the first place, don't you get that? You threw him out, at which point you two were no longer together. You set him free so anything he did was perfectly acceptable by any standards. You can't have your cake and eat it too. Once you threw him out, he owed YOU nothing. You made him a single man. I do not understand why you do not understand this. If you two are not together, he can't cheat on you.
Is it normal that someone can change?
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I feel sorry for this guy. Try for a second to see his perspective:
So you kicked him out the house just because he wanted to hang out with his friends. Thereby pushing him to the edge and into drugs. He tries to find some love in the arms of a "whore" after YOU borke up with him! Now you blame him for having a crisis and don't offer any help. He still gets his shit together on his own and keeps fighting for you.
Was it the right thing to take him back? I don't know, it seems like you're not too good for him. In a relationship you help and love each other thorugh good and rough times!
I don't know you and I don't want to hurt you, but you have to start seeing your own flaws in order to truly love someone.
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Didn't she say he had been using drugs for six months before she kicked him out? That's how I read it but I'm not sure.
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Exactly that's why I kicked him out cause I knew he had been using drugs I kicked him out thinking well ok maybe he would actually stop drugs and come back home not go out there use it even more and fuck another whore then decides to go to rehab and come back!
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I definitely get how upsetting this would be and how hard it would be to get over. But I agree with everyone else when they say you have to let it go or end the relationship. It does sound like he loves you and has made a big effort to better himself. People can change. Make sure that photo is deleted (I'm not really sure why you would save it) and move on. Good luck.
No I kicked him out cause I knew he was using drugs and I thought maybe he would actually stop and understand how mad I was for him that he was using drugs but instead he went afterwards used drugs even more intensively sleeping with this girl and then deciding he needed to stop drugs and go to rehab and come back? I mean why would he get mad when I kicked him out, using drugs and sleeping with this girl then later realizing oh ya well let me go to rehab and come apologize !!
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I believe your anger is going to destroy this relationship. Read all your posts again and I think you will agree they are all very angry.
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I was angry the point is now a year later he did change and he stopped drugs and all, I was angry writing this post cause as I mentioned I was came across that photo of him kissing the girl and felt I needed to express my anger. I mean it hurt me I think about her everyday even tho I know that happened a year ago and things are perfectly fine with us now I still have that constant fear of him cheating on me..
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Get over it or tell him you're not over it. You kicked him out he wasnt with you anymore he could fuck whoever he wanted. Thats what it means when you throw out someone's shit and lock them out of their house. He never cheated on you, and if he was doing coke he probably fucked more like 50 whores not just 1 lol
He never cheated on you in the first place, don't you get that? You threw him out, at which point you two were no longer together. You set him free so anything he did was perfectly acceptable by any standards. You can't have your cake and eat it too. Once you threw him out, he owed YOU nothing. You made him a single man. I do not understand why you do not understand this. If you two are not together, he can't cheat on you.
Oh sorry, I missed the drug part apparently. That puts the whole story in a different light, I apologize.