Is it normal that since i had my son i don't like myself naked?

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So ever since I had my son I have stretch marks and not to mention a few other changes...and I hate it. I used to be so happy with the way I looked and now it kinda sucks I think. It affects my relationship too. He says it doesn't bother him that I'm not open with him sexually but it bothers me. I just want to look how I did before. It's like when we have sex I don't want him too look at me. So I don't like to be on top either and I get nervous. I am still a pretty girl and I know that but is this normal.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    11 years ago | pl

    "He says it doesn't bother him that I'm not open with him sexually but it bothers me."

    If he's bothered by anything it's how you look at yourself. Most likely he thinks you're crazy for not seeing what he sees.

    As my man says - the cock doesn't lie. If he gets hard for you he still desires you.

    Take my advice... go to bed with him completely naked with the lights on. Let him explore. You may just find that it turns him on like nothing else.

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  • poon_jabber
    9 years ago | pl

    He might b picking.up on your lack of self confidence which isnt sexy.

    The good news.. There are holistic cures w/o cosmetic surgery. Try googling castor oil cure for stretch marks. Btw use organic castor oil. My gf did thisand for.varicose veins & it worked. Its one.of those secret cures doctors wont tell u bcuz they dont wanna lose their cosmetic surgery gravy train.

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  • KuhnLover
    11 years ago | pl

    I'm the same way. It's normal. It might take you a while to get comfortable with your new body.

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  • Lynxikat
    11 years ago | pl

    By "him", you mean your partner, right? If he still loves you, still finds you attractive and still wants to have sex with you, then I don't think you should obsess about your appearance so much.

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  • Dazzie
    11 years ago | pl

    Learn how to your body no matter what. This might take time because pregnancy causes lots of physical changes on a female, and at the begining you're not used to those changes. The goal is to stop feeling unsecure. I'm sure you're still a beautiful woman but me telling you this isn't going to change anything. Remind yourself how beautiful you are. Talk to your partner about it too. You said it's affecting your relationship, it doesn't bother him but it bothers you. You're the one feeling self conscious, try talking to him about it. He can also remind you how beautiful you are. Sometimes we can't get over things alone. Company always helps.

    Also, if strech marks are the problem there's a lot of cocoa butter products that can help. You can look for them online or go to a local pharmacy. One of my girlfirends gave birth not too long ago and she had some bad stretch marks, cocoa butter helped her a lot.

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  • joybird
    11 years ago | pl

    If you have a baby to see to I think that your body is the least of your worries!

    BTW if you keep having sex and get pregnant again, without giving your body time to recover, you will NEVER recover what it was before.

    Your living as if you are married, and that's the best contraceptive there is - no dates / courtship any more, with screaming baby in tow.

    Stop inspecting yourself and learn to live with the damage a baby does to your body. You're supposed to be grateful for those scars - reminding you of your beautiful baby! NOT!

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