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Like, who is she talking to? Unlike her, I'm always signed into skype, but I only chat with her. She's only signed...when she signs in. She's on right now, and she's definitely not chatting with me. Sometimes when I see she's on, I call her. She picks right up, and we'll talk for hours...while she's still signed into skype. WTH is that?
I can't say that she's ever done anything to make me distrust her. But I guess it's that "women are better liars than men" stigma that I'm bothered by. I know there's a huge difference between being suspicious and being aware, and I'm trying hard not to exhibit any traits of the former.
Fact is, I do trust her, but this still bothers me. How should I address it? Should I address it?
I guess you can try being light and non-judgmental, as in asking her who she talks to on Skype. If she continully tells you its just you, I'm afraid you may have to just take her word for it. And let her know she can tell you anything, maybe even add in that you can be insecure so she understands your fears.
Well has she ever done anything to warrant your distrust? I didn't mean to presume, you just did not give much information with regards to your history together.
I'm imagining that you have probably told her about how unsettled you are about her possibly talking to these men? If not, its definitely to voice your concerns. If she hasn't disconnected from the men that upset you so much, maybe you should tell her to try a different messenger service or delete them?
Theres a fair amount of trust you have to have to allow other men to talk to any significant other online..and she may think they are harmless friendships. Try to not assume the worst.
So...first of all we're engaged. Secondly, her skype doesn't start with her computer. Thirdly, she asked me to get skype to communicate with her specifically. Nevertheless, I don't think it's fair to assume that I should be nonchalant about my GF, Fiance, or Wife commincating with other men on the net.
I know she's previously used it to communicate with men. All of her "friends" are women, and they talk and text.
Are you dating this "she"?
In case she is not very computer literate or purposely set it this way..Skype starts up when your computer does..so she may not even realize its online..or maybe she likes to have the opportunity to talk at any point when on the computer.
Without knowing your relationship, you seem insecure or jealous that she is talking to others, but think of it this way..what if she demanded that of you? It seems unfair to pin her down to only talk to you on a messenger service meant to connect with others.