Is it normal that she hurts me, but i don't ever want to leave?

Okay, so there's this friend (let's call her... Susan). Susan and I have been friends since grade school. Like, like-liked each other. We've dated all of 3 times so far. The first time was horrible. We didn't do anything(and we dated for a month), and she ended up cheating on me, claiming that she was tired of waiting. The second time, which was a whole year later, I kissed her at a party and we dated for another month. Susan, again, cheated on me when she went out of time with family. 5 months later, Susan broke up with the boy, and we decided that we should try with Friend with Benifits. The second I kissed her, we knew it wouldn't work, so we decided to be together. That time, it only lasted for four days. She, AGAIN, found a guy. And I finally asked her, why does she always cheat on me with other guys. What she said was 'I have daddy issues, I've never been able to trust a male before, so I'm going to date as many guys as I can until I can find someone I can trust.'... I guess I can handle the fact that she has problems, I just don't understand why it only happens with me.. But, the real question I have is, why do I still love her, and want to be with her? Why can't I just hate her for breaking my heart so many times, and just leave? Why do I still want- no, need her?...

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  • stonecutters93

    Same thing happened to me dude, but the only difference is she never cheated on me because we weren't together. I finally had enough and got the hell out of there, it's gonna be incredibly hard, but I think you need to do the same.

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  • NeuroNeptunian

    Obviously she's just having too much fun dating and giving you some kind of bullsh*t excuse. Don't get too hung up on girls like that, I was one of those girls and honestly? I'd bet money that she just isn't interested in you the way you are interested in her. Just let her go.

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  • rose

    Try everything you can before giving up.
    If she says that... Try to show her that she can trust you, make the possible and the impossible... And after all that, if she keeping cheating on you and dont change her attitudes then let her go. But at least (in my opinion) you will feel that you tried everything for her and you wont feel so bad in the end.

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  • rin

    What a hypocrite. "I've never been able to trust a male before, so I'm going to date as many guys as I can until I can find someone I can trust."

    So that makes it okay for her to break your trust? and possibly make you not trust girls after her.

    You're probably a really nice guy. She probably feels like she can always fall back onto you because she knows you will always take her back. Forget this girl.

    She thinks she can do better than you. Is that okay with you?

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  • DedicatedToTheTruth

    This reminds me of the song Just The Girl by The Click Five.

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  • Lynxikat

    This girl isn't going to change. It's like rin said- she's a hypocrite. She says she "can't trust guys", but is willing to constantly break YOUR trust?

    I can't give you an answer on why you're in love with this girl. Because honestly, there's no reason why you should be in love with her. If she's cheated on you every single time you've hooked up, then there's nothing to love about her. Forget about her and find someone who really does earn your love and trust- because God knows this girl doesn't.

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  • ModelDMJ

    Because you love her ! It's hard to break love apart , so maybe you were the only one putting the love in the relationship ?

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  • Kittkats

    I had something similar my boyfriend did this to me he told me that he had mommy issues and that he couldn`t trust girls it took me a while to realize that he was not going to change and he would just continue to hurt me more so i gave up on trying its not worth it trust me it hurts and no matter how much you love her you just have to let her go your just going to hurt yourself shes not worth it you can do alot better then her hang in there.

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  • LongLiveTheSick

    Something frighteningly similar just happened to me... well, has been happening.
    I finally just had to get out, the emotional and even physical toll was just becoming too much. It hurt like hell, but honestly, I was relieved.
    Hang in there, you're bound to figure it out.

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  • rin

    Sorry it's late >.< I've never been in this situation but have seen it happen to friends. I'm pretty sure if it happened to me I'd take the person back too.

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  • joybird

    We always want what we can't have! That person always seems more interesting / attractive than one that throws themselves at you.

    I don't think it just happens with you either. Sounds like she doesn't date long term - but she may just be young and enjoying herself.

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