Interesting. It would seem then that I have come across an inordinate number of men that are ashamed of their activities and choose the cowards way of blaming the object of their obsession for said obsession.
Or perhaps you could visit the chat room on this very site and witness the phenomenon for yourself.
I don't really agree with your analogy of this being like a drug dealer and addict, because an addict gets addicted after he or she starts taking drugs, and there is no biological need to take them. It's a little bit different here because everyone has sexual desires that can manifest themselves in different ways, of course. I would like to say that guys who bad mouth porn stars have some kind of unhealthy attitude towards porn. One is that they could be ashamed of jerking to it, another could be that they find themselves somehow addicted to it. So now it relates back to your drug dealer and addict analogy. I suppose a recreational drug user wouldn't feel the same antagonism towards a dealer and blame them for his/her problems or issues that an addict would be more likely to do. Same thing applies here. I watch porn sometimes, but I realize it's no substitute for a healthy sex life, I have normal sexual fantasies, and porn isn't the only thing that turns me on.
Most of all, I respect girls and women as human beings. Guys and men who talk condescendingly about porn stars, adult entertainers, strippers, prostitutes...these guys are, on some level, misogynists and sexists. I've seen interviews with several porn stars, most of the time they were really bright young women, funny, sweet, charming, intelligent, more than capable of succeeding at any profession that they could have chosen. For better or worse they got into this. But it was very clear to me that porn was one thing and who these girls were as people was something completely different. Their job didn't define them. They were just normal regular girls, unfortunately many times with rough childhoods or a history of sexual abuse or growing up in a strict family, and that they experienced things in life or felt the need to break free of expectations, that potentially influenced them to come down these paths. For the most part, only the girls who had interesting life experiences or stories to tell, not girls who "just liked sex", were the ones who actually did make it in porn because it requires you to be incredibly strong willed. I have seen how in some cases being a porn star has devastating mental, emotional, and psychological consequences. Some girls have breakdowns, others start abusing drugs or alcohol. I don't think any guy who criticizes porn stars really has any clue about what they have to go through. Sure, a lot of porn stars (at the top of the industry) become pretty financially well off, but it takes a toll on their mind in the long run. And if anything I respect what they do. I also respect that they learn a lot about their own sexuality in the process and become more aware individuals.
Analogies nearly by definition will be flawed. What I did was attempt to put the patterns into a more recognizable form so that those seemingly unable to grasp the salient points could find their way.
I'm astonished and pleased that you wrote such a long and detailed response, you seem to have an insightful grasp on the situation.
thanks. I just happened to be in some kind of contemplative mood last night and felt like writing a lot. I swear I'm not as smart or wise as that comment makes me seem. Also thank you for asking such an interesting and thought provoking question.
I'm glad that we could tap into that mood, I thought what you wrote was very insightful. This subject is very near and dear to my heart for personal reasons that I'm not going to entirely divulge here. But I hope that if the astute reader can extrapolate the inferred meaning of that last sentence they will see that I am someone that is well spoken, hopefully intelligent, and yet... and yet someone that has lived the darker side of this topic matter and come out bruised but not broken. I will admit that I have a certain bias because I've seen how women that try to leave all manner of sex work are marginalized and discriminated against and it's by and large by men that have been consumers of the product. And what is the product? It is nothing less that the life, body, soul, dignity, and sanity of the women that were involved in entertaining them. And that dear readers fucking sucks. I know I have presented myself in a way that is likely astonishing to those of you that can't imagine a well spoken whore or porn actress but believe me I've done dirtier things with my mouth than use it to utter swear words.
I think what I've set out to delve into is largely done. I will continue to monitor this thread and perhaps create others in the future but I would like to thank all of you that participated in this little experiment with seriousness and dignity.
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Interesting. It would seem then that I have come across an inordinate number of men that are ashamed of their activities and choose the cowards way of blaming the object of their obsession for said obsession.
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I don't really agree with your analogy of this being like a drug dealer and addict, because an addict gets addicted after he or she starts taking drugs, and there is no biological need to take them. It's a little bit different here because everyone has sexual desires that can manifest themselves in different ways, of course. I would like to say that guys who bad mouth porn stars have some kind of unhealthy attitude towards porn. One is that they could be ashamed of jerking to it, another could be that they find themselves somehow addicted to it. So now it relates back to your drug dealer and addict analogy. I suppose a recreational drug user wouldn't feel the same antagonism towards a dealer and blame them for his/her problems or issues that an addict would be more likely to do. Same thing applies here. I watch porn sometimes, but I realize it's no substitute for a healthy sex life, I have normal sexual fantasies, and porn isn't the only thing that turns me on.
Most of all, I respect girls and women as human beings. Guys and men who talk condescendingly about porn stars, adult entertainers, strippers, prostitutes...these guys are, on some level, misogynists and sexists. I've seen interviews with several porn stars, most of the time they were really bright young women, funny, sweet, charming, intelligent, more than capable of succeeding at any profession that they could have chosen. For better or worse they got into this. But it was very clear to me that porn was one thing and who these girls were as people was something completely different. Their job didn't define them. They were just normal regular girls, unfortunately many times with rough childhoods or a history of sexual abuse or growing up in a strict family, and that they experienced things in life or felt the need to break free of expectations, that potentially influenced them to come down these paths. For the most part, only the girls who had interesting life experiences or stories to tell, not girls who "just liked sex", were the ones who actually did make it in porn because it requires you to be incredibly strong willed. I have seen how in some cases being a porn star has devastating mental, emotional, and psychological consequences. Some girls have breakdowns, others start abusing drugs or alcohol. I don't think any guy who criticizes porn stars really has any clue about what they have to go through. Sure, a lot of porn stars (at the top of the industry) become pretty financially well off, but it takes a toll on their mind in the long run. And if anything I respect what they do. I also respect that they learn a lot about their own sexuality in the process and become more aware individuals.
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Analogies nearly by definition will be flawed. What I did was attempt to put the patterns into a more recognizable form so that those seemingly unable to grasp the salient points could find their way.
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thanks. I just happened to be in some kind of contemplative mood last night and felt like writing a lot. I swear I'm not as smart or wise as that comment makes me seem. Also thank you for asking such an interesting and thought provoking question.
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I'm glad that we could tap into that mood, I thought what you wrote was very insightful. This subject is very near and dear to my heart for personal reasons that I'm not going to entirely divulge here. But I hope that if the astute reader can extrapolate the inferred meaning of that last sentence they will see that I am someone that is well spoken, hopefully intelligent, and yet... and yet someone that has lived the darker side of this topic matter and come out bruised but not broken. I will admit that I have a certain bias because I've seen how women that try to leave all manner of sex work are marginalized and discriminated against and it's by and large by men that have been consumers of the product. And what is the product? It is nothing less that the life, body, soul, dignity, and sanity of the women that were involved in entertaining them. And that dear readers fucking sucks. I know I have presented myself in a way that is likely astonishing to those of you that can't imagine a well spoken whore or porn actress but believe me I've done dirtier things with my mouth than use it to utter swear words.
I think what I've set out to delve into is largely done. I will continue to monitor this thread and perhaps create others in the future but I would like to thank all of you that participated in this little experiment with seriousness and dignity.