They are looked down upon because being a porn star is considered on the same level of being a porn star, it is labelled as taboo by society and those in such professions are not highly regarded by others.
So if that is the case how can the people, largely men that "benefit" from the services they provide be any better?
I can't reconcile the hypocrisy of a guy fapping to porn then degrading the woman by saying she's a slut. Can you help me to understand the cognitive dissonance?
Sorry I meant to say that society considers porn stars to be on the same level of strippers and prostitutes, that is shamelessly selling their body for a quick buck. Although there is a huge market for pornographic and other content of a sexual nature, those who are involved in professions like porn, adult entertainment, nude modeling, etc. are not generally respected by the majority of society. It's just not seen as a respectable thing to do to, and family members or close relatives of those who are adult performers often feel ashamed if anyone finds out. There is this looming social stigma surrounding the adult industry and prostitution. If men didn't enjoy porn then there would be no need for porn stars - that's simple supply and demand. People can try to deny it, but the bottom line is that sex sells. If porn or nude content didn't exist then guys would jerk off to women wearing sexy bikinis or lingerie. Whether it's entirely fair or not for people to judge others for anything they choose to do, as long as they're not harming anyone else, is open to debate. But I feel like many people just don't understand it, or they see it as something inherently "dirty", or they don't want their children to be lured into a similar path. Lots of people have the idea that putting yourself in a position of having sex with multiple people is unethical, immoral, and overly promiscuous, or excessively lustful, even if it's for money. Everyone has their reasons personally, but sex is usually seen as something that people acknowledge as necessary, but no one wants to talk about it openly... Also, I don't think that the men who admit to jerking off to porn are the ones who will tend to criticize porn stars, it will instead be the guys who jerk off to porn AND are ashamed that they do who will try doing that. Because most normal, rational, and logical people do recognize that there is a societal need for porn stars and sex workers, who are of course in these professions as a result of their voluntary free will, and that being a porn star or a stripper is just a job like any other.
Interesting. It would seem then that I have come across an inordinate number of men that are ashamed of their activities and choose the cowards way of blaming the object of their obsession for said obsession.
Or perhaps you could visit the chat room on this very site and witness the phenomenon for yourself.
I don't really agree with your analogy of this being like a drug dealer and addict, because an addict gets addicted after he or she starts taking drugs, and there is no biological need to take them. It's a little bit different here because everyone has sexual desires that can manifest themselves in different ways, of course. I would like to say that guys who bad mouth porn stars have some kind of unhealthy attitude towards porn. One is that they could be ashamed of jerking to it, another could be that they find themselves somehow addicted to it. So now it relates back to your drug dealer and addict analogy. I suppose a recreational drug user wouldn't feel the same antagonism towards a dealer and blame them for his/her problems or issues that an addict would be more likely to do. Same thing applies here. I watch porn sometimes, but I realize it's no substitute for a healthy sex life, I have normal sexual fantasies, and porn isn't the only thing that turns me on.
Most of all, I respect girls and women as human beings. Guys and men who talk condescendingly about porn stars, adult entertainers, strippers, prostitutes...these guys are, on some level, misogynists and sexists. I've seen interviews with several porn stars, most of the time they were really bright young women, funny, sweet, charming, intelligent, more than capable of succeeding at any profession that they could have chosen. For better or worse they got into this. But it was very clear to me that porn was one thing and who these girls were as people was something completely different. Their job didn't define them. They were just normal regular girls, unfortunately many times with rough childhoods or a history of sexual abuse or growing up in a strict family, and that they experienced things in life or felt the need to break free of expectations, that potentially influenced them to come down these paths. For the most part, only the girls who had interesting life experiences or stories to tell, not girls who "just liked sex", were the ones who actually did make it in porn because it requires you to be incredibly strong willed. I have seen how in some cases being a porn star has devastating mental, emotional, and psychological consequences. Some girls have breakdowns, others start abusing drugs or alcohol. I don't think any guy who criticizes porn stars really has any clue about what they have to go through. Sure, a lot of porn stars (at the top of the industry) become pretty financially well off, but it takes a toll on their mind in the long run. And if anything I respect what they do. I also respect that they learn a lot about their own sexuality in the process and become more aware individuals.
Analogies nearly by definition will be flawed. What I did was attempt to put the patterns into a more recognizable form so that those seemingly unable to grasp the salient points could find their way.
I'm astonished and pleased that you wrote such a long and detailed response, you seem to have an insightful grasp on the situation.
thanks. I just happened to be in some kind of contemplative mood last night and felt like writing a lot. I swear I'm not as smart or wise as that comment makes me seem. Also thank you for asking such an interesting and thought provoking question.
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So if that is the case how can the people, largely men that "benefit" from the services they provide be any better?
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Sorry I meant to say that society considers porn stars to be on the same level of strippers and prostitutes, that is shamelessly selling their body for a quick buck. Although there is a huge market for pornographic and other content of a sexual nature, those who are involved in professions like porn, adult entertainment, nude modeling, etc. are not generally respected by the majority of society. It's just not seen as a respectable thing to do to, and family members or close relatives of those who are adult performers often feel ashamed if anyone finds out. There is this looming social stigma surrounding the adult industry and prostitution. If men didn't enjoy porn then there would be no need for porn stars - that's simple supply and demand. People can try to deny it, but the bottom line is that sex sells. If porn or nude content didn't exist then guys would jerk off to women wearing sexy bikinis or lingerie. Whether it's entirely fair or not for people to judge others for anything they choose to do, as long as they're not harming anyone else, is open to debate. But I feel like many people just don't understand it, or they see it as something inherently "dirty", or they don't want their children to be lured into a similar path. Lots of people have the idea that putting yourself in a position of having sex with multiple people is unethical, immoral, and overly promiscuous, or excessively lustful, even if it's for money. Everyone has their reasons personally, but sex is usually seen as something that people acknowledge as necessary, but no one wants to talk about it openly... Also, I don't think that the men who admit to jerking off to porn are the ones who will tend to criticize porn stars, it will instead be the guys who jerk off to porn AND are ashamed that they do who will try doing that. Because most normal, rational, and logical people do recognize that there is a societal need for porn stars and sex workers, who are of course in these professions as a result of their voluntary free will, and that being a porn star or a stripper is just a job like any other.
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Interesting. It would seem then that I have come across an inordinate number of men that are ashamed of their activities and choose the cowards way of blaming the object of their obsession for said obsession.
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I don't really agree with your analogy of this being like a drug dealer and addict, because an addict gets addicted after he or she starts taking drugs, and there is no biological need to take them. It's a little bit different here because everyone has sexual desires that can manifest themselves in different ways, of course. I would like to say that guys who bad mouth porn stars have some kind of unhealthy attitude towards porn. One is that they could be ashamed of jerking to it, another could be that they find themselves somehow addicted to it. So now it relates back to your drug dealer and addict analogy. I suppose a recreational drug user wouldn't feel the same antagonism towards a dealer and blame them for his/her problems or issues that an addict would be more likely to do. Same thing applies here. I watch porn sometimes, but I realize it's no substitute for a healthy sex life, I have normal sexual fantasies, and porn isn't the only thing that turns me on.
Most of all, I respect girls and women as human beings. Guys and men who talk condescendingly about porn stars, adult entertainers, strippers, prostitutes...these guys are, on some level, misogynists and sexists. I've seen interviews with several porn stars, most of the time they were really bright young women, funny, sweet, charming, intelligent, more than capable of succeeding at any profession that they could have chosen. For better or worse they got into this. But it was very clear to me that porn was one thing and who these girls were as people was something completely different. Their job didn't define them. They were just normal regular girls, unfortunately many times with rough childhoods or a history of sexual abuse or growing up in a strict family, and that they experienced things in life or felt the need to break free of expectations, that potentially influenced them to come down these paths. For the most part, only the girls who had interesting life experiences or stories to tell, not girls who "just liked sex", were the ones who actually did make it in porn because it requires you to be incredibly strong willed. I have seen how in some cases being a porn star has devastating mental, emotional, and psychological consequences. Some girls have breakdowns, others start abusing drugs or alcohol. I don't think any guy who criticizes porn stars really has any clue about what they have to go through. Sure, a lot of porn stars (at the top of the industry) become pretty financially well off, but it takes a toll on their mind in the long run. And if anything I respect what they do. I also respect that they learn a lot about their own sexuality in the process and become more aware individuals.
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thanks. I just happened to be in some kind of contemplative mood last night and felt like writing a lot. I swear I'm not as smart or wise as that comment makes me seem. Also thank you for asking such an interesting and thought provoking question.