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I've been dating my boyfriend for 7 months now and sex just isn't as fun as it was when we started, he's really clingy , and sex with him doesn't feel fun or exciting , it's actually been quite boring lately because most times i'm doing most of the work, Is this normal ?
Well at least get out of the bedroom. Have sex on a bear skin rug by the fireplace, or do it on the kitchen counter. Sex by your swimming pool is another good spot.
Maybe the two of you need to cook up a few fantasies, and act them out. My favorite was when she used to tie my wrists to the headboard while wearing a burglar's mask. Then she robbed me of my sperm. Fun indeed.
Yeah, that's totally normal. A lot of couples actually end up having your same issue. Sex is a pretty important factor in many relationships, so it's important for both parties to be satisfied in that department and sometimes that takes a little extra communication.
Try spicing things up in the bedroom more. If you don't want to do all the work then clearly tell him that or put yourself in the position you want to be in.. I'm sure he'll get the hint.
The best way to get over someone is to get under someone. NOW, that said, have you considered roleplay, or maybe making him wear some of your lingerie or something you might could find sexy or fun to a degree. Get a dildo or strapon, tell him to get on his hands and knees and you take control if he's not going to. Now, if the idea of you getting with a guy wearing lingerie and stuff like that interests you, then you can message me,
Interesting you say he's "clingy". I wonder how he perceives things. Maybe he's like this because he's insecure or perhaps he thinks that closeness is what you want or maybe your perceptions of him have changed over the months.
In my 40-odd years of experience with long-term relationships, I've found that the sexual aspect always changes (just like every other aspect). Passionate, intense new love is easy with the right person and and it's wonderful, but the long-haul requires effort, compromise and acceptance from both parties.
Maybe he just isn't the guy you need in your life. But I firmly believe that "The best is the enemy of the good". He may not be the perfect partner for you, but it seems to me that a lot of people create much pain and frustration in their lives by searching for an illusory ideal partner who will fulfill all their needs at all times.
It's stating the obvious, but with sex, clear communication is vital. It's often not easy. It's often not a pleasant conversation to have if the other party is insecure. But you obviously need to have the discussion since you're dissatisfied with your sexual relationship and it appears this may be enough to make you feel the need to move on.
In my experience, it can be interesting to talk about what you each like while you're actually having sex. In your case, while you're doing the "work" and you're both in a nice, sexy mood, maybe you could start by saying what you find pleasurable about that position, then gently segue into the things you enjoyed about the way you used to do it. If the discussion goes well and you're feeling brave, you could start to talk about fantasies you have. I think most guys enjoy explicit talk, but you might gradually work up to serious dirty talk if you're uncertain how he'd deal with this.
Who knows? If you concentrate on everything you're actually feeling as you do the "work" and express this explicitly, you might find that things are not quite as boring as you've been thinking.