Is it normal that sex is so important to me?

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My fiance is wonderful but we don't really connect sexually. I like biting, kissing, scratching, spontaneity, enthusiasm! He likes it in the missionary position, preferably in the dark. 3 to 5 minutes top. Once a week if I'm lucky.
I love him to pieces but I'm so frigging horny all the time that I've started fantasizing about other people... And I've tried showing him what I like but he seems uncomfortable at best. We've been together 4 years. I'm not sure if I can be with someone forever if the sex isn't good. Is that normal? Should I just be happy with what I have?

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Based on 13 votes (8 yes)
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  • Littlebadgirl
    11 years ago

    Are you really willing to put yourself through a life of crappy, mediocre sex for this guy?
    I think sex matters a lot. It's not what matters the most, obviously, but it is a big deal. Your problem with time will eventually lead to cheating or other route of escape, but it won't just disappear.

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    • thehappyamoeba
      11 years ago

      That's what I'm afraid of... Oh but he is so sweet. Oh maaaaan :C

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  • Redlegs24
    11 years ago

    You just have to keep talking to him & let him know how serious you are about it cause eventually you might cheat cause of what you want & what you've been missing cause you win't be able to stand boring sex forever if your not getting satisfied

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    I think he's got a little sex devil hidden inside him somewhere. You should dominate him >:D Put on some sexy skin tight leather and show him what great sex is!

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    • thehappyamoeba
      11 years ago

      That's a ridiculous and intriguing suggestion.
      You know he is into pregnant chicks. Maybe I should just tuck a beach ball under my shirt and strut for him o.o

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      • ccjigsaw
        11 years ago

        That's bizarre lol It's definitely proof that he has a perverted side.. I would rape that man. Open up his wild side.

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  • Bad_girl19
    11 years ago

    Tell him that you just want oral sex and when you have orgasmed, turn the tables. Tell him that it may take 20 mins and that is normal. If he still doesn't get it, buy him "Mars & Venus in the bedroom". Good luck x

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    • thehappyamoeba
      11 years ago

      He doesn't like giving head T-T But I guess I could give the book a try...

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  • thehappyamoeba
    11 years ago

    I need a sex counselor

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Use his hand to touch you in your oooh places.

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    • thehappyamoeba
      11 years ago

      He giggles and makes honking noises and TAKES ME RIGHT OUTTA THE MOMENT.

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      • 1000yrVampireKing
        11 years ago

        Get him to talk to you and if he will not threaten to leave him.

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      • thehappyamoeba
        11 years ago

        Sorry I'm just so frustrated.

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  • davesumba
    11 years ago

    i said no, because i will never understand why sex is so important to people, especially to the point of cheating on your loving significant other.

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    • thehappyamoeba
      11 years ago

      I haven't cheated on him, I would hate myself forever. It's not worth losing him BUT I feel like something really important and vital is missing in this relationship... Just trying to figure out how to handle it. Not doing a great job so far

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  • quentari
    11 years ago

    you really need to try and get him to communicate, he can't help it if he has a lower libido but that doesn't mean you can't be more adventurous when you do have sex.

    Invest in a vibrator.

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  • Short4Words
    11 years ago

    You should just ask him why he's uncomfortable.

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    • thehappyamoeba
      11 years ago

      I have, He's not much for communicating. He sticks by "I don't know. I just am."

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      • Short4Words
        11 years ago

        Well if it's hurting your relationship he should know, at least before marriage.

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        • thehappyamoeba
          11 years ago

          I've TOLD HIM THIS. He won't acknowledge it!! Oh my god I'm just going to buy the biggest dildo I can find and be done with it.

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  • ygrowup
    11 years ago

    Clear this up now if you expect this relationship to last, ease him beyond his boundaries with some soft porn movies together

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