Is it normal that porn is ruining my sex life?

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I'm 24 and I've been married for almost 2 years. I've been watching porn and masturbating on and off since I was probably about 13, but my porn use and masturbation habits have gotten MUCH worse since I've been married. Before we got married my sex life with my wife was great. Now we have a 18mo old daughter so it's alot harder to be spontaneous and have fun sex like we used to. So I've turned more towards porn, which in turn has led to problems in the bedroom. I've had trouble staying hard and my wife hasn't really been turning me on like porn does. Help.

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  • Short4Words
    8 years ago

    It's important that sex is fun but you shouldn't put unrealistic expectations on her either.

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    • CforCourageous
      8 years ago

      The sex isn't fun anymore though. It hasn't been for a while. We'll try to spice it up every now and then, maybe have drinks before, she'll wear lingerie, etc. But the biggest problem is that my erections go away pretty quickly if I'm not in a certain position or if I'm not getting head, which is still enjoyable. I find myself wanting to have sex with different women..

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      • Short4Words
        8 years ago

        It's normal to be curious in a monogamous relationship but you made a commitment.

        You should do 2 things:

        1. Stop watching so much porn.

        2. Start making things a lot more interesting in bed. Lingerie and drinks sounds like pretty basic stuff. You might have more luck with cosplay and scenario based stuff.

        Have you talked to your wife about this?

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        • CforCourageous
          8 years ago

          I'm scared to talk to her about it because she already feels like it's her fault. I dont want to hurt her self esteem. She thinks she isn't attractive to me, which isn't true. She's beautiful. It's my own personal issues that are hurting the sex. I know I need to stop watching porn and masturbating.

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          • Ellenna
            8 years ago

            If you don't talk about it you're contributing to her low self esteem, which is often fragile for women after having a child.

            You're a grown up aren't you? Relationships without clear honest communication run into trouble with or without pornography being involved: TALK TO HER!

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      • Angelmikeal0
        8 years ago

        viagra.

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  • Lonely2
    8 years ago

    Your substituting porn instead of cheating with another woman because your wife doesnt fully do it for you anymore...women love kids more than men you know that right? So her attention is all about the kid...women are so into kids they basically think tough shit for the guy in her life...baby needs me and he can take care of himself....they also tend to let themselves go....so your reacting to a lot...you used to be the center of her world and now you barely exist....dont feel guilty about your god given needs...nature made us a certain way for a reason thats a million times smarter than people can understand

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  • answerme
    8 years ago

    Suggest you guys fuck while watching porn? It's actually a lot of fun

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  • benvigil
    8 years ago

    You are a sex addict and need to go to sex addicts anonomyse, look it up online there are group meetings everywhere! I know because i'm a sex addict in recovery.

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  • wistfulmaiden
    8 years ago

    I actually think this is common. I'd say stop looking at porn! Or at least films for a start.

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  • usethedolltoshowuswereTGStouch
    8 years ago

    How do you stop a woman from having sex?
    Marry her.

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  • galen
    8 years ago

    My S/O and I have been together for over 20 years and she's quite accepting of the fact that as a man I view porn. Though I have a rare fet ish and it's pretty much not to be found online. So we get along pretty well in bed, due to her being willing to indulge my desires. I'd say it's pretty much a matter of a fit between your desires (possibly including online) and your partner's attitude toward same.

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  • flyingnostalgia
    8 years ago

    You should stop watching porn cus you will lose brain cells....well you probably have at this point.

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