I HAVE THE SAME EXACT ISSUE THAT I AM KNOWN BY FAR MORE PEOPLE THAN I'VE ACTUALLY MET!
People tend to like me a lot before I even form an opinion of them. And then sooner or later, I decide that we are incompatible (as friends, etc.) and then they are already too comfortable with me.
It was to the point that people have thought we were already "best friends" expecting a hug from me to say bye, whereas I didn't even consider the person as a "friend" but a mere acquaintance.
I also have to be careful with how I deal with women because many of them assumed we were already dating whereas I was just being friendly and nice to them. In highschool, I didn't even know that I has someone as a girlfriend because she clearly thought we were an item, whereas I was just being friendly and haven't even decided whether I would pursue her or not.
And then friends of "friends, acquaintances, etc." would introduce themselves to me, already knowing me (having heard about me) but I don't even know them! It's such a common phenomenon that I always had to joke, saying: "What did I do now?"
Do you think there is a reason why this happens to us?
I got nothing. I guess we're more measured in the way that we approach and open up to people, and as a result we socialize with fewer people? That doesn't really make sense. But people like to talk, so we get talked about no matter what.
I guess I shouldn't describe it as a problem. It certainly doesn't hurt me, since in most cases people hear positive or neutral things about me and not stupid gossip. It's just surprising when people act like they feel close to me. It's sort of a wake up call every time, to realize that this is how regular people think of relationships developing.
Is it normal that people like me more than I like them?
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WOAH!!!!!!!
THIS IS THE ANSWER I AM LOOKING FOR!
I HAVE THE SAME EXACT ISSUE THAT I AM KNOWN BY FAR MORE PEOPLE THAN I'VE ACTUALLY MET!
People tend to like me a lot before I even form an opinion of them. And then sooner or later, I decide that we are incompatible (as friends, etc.) and then they are already too comfortable with me.
It was to the point that people have thought we were already "best friends" expecting a hug from me to say bye, whereas I didn't even consider the person as a "friend" but a mere acquaintance.
I also have to be careful with how I deal with women because many of them assumed we were already dating whereas I was just being friendly and nice to them. In highschool, I didn't even know that I has someone as a girlfriend because she clearly thought we were an item, whereas I was just being friendly and haven't even decided whether I would pursue her or not.
And then friends of "friends, acquaintances, etc." would introduce themselves to me, already knowing me (having heard about me) but I don't even know them! It's such a common phenomenon that I always had to joke, saying: "What did I do now?"
Do you think there is a reason why this happens to us?
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*Reads first sentence* *Makes fist* Yes!
I got nothing. I guess we're more measured in the way that we approach and open up to people, and as a result we socialize with fewer people? That doesn't really make sense. But people like to talk, so we get talked about no matter what.
I guess I shouldn't describe it as a problem. It certainly doesn't hurt me, since in most cases people hear positive or neutral things about me and not stupid gossip. It's just surprising when people act like they feel close to me. It's sort of a wake up call every time, to realize that this is how regular people think of relationships developing.
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THANKS!