Is it normal that only i can get myself to cum really hard?

I am sorry to hear that your male lovers can not get you to cum as hard as when you masturbate. The problem lies strictly with your male lovers...They are probably so pre-occupied with their own pleasure...that they are omitting the vitally important aspect of making sure their female lover is fully satisfied... They should always be inquiring to see that are perform to your ultimate sexual satisfcation of your needs and desires..before they "get off" If necessary..you need to direct them specifically to what areas of your womanhood ring your bell!!

The #1 rule in our marriage...the wife goes first in terms of reaching orgasm...Until she tells me she has had enough...I keep providing her oral sex....because if the wife is not happy in bed...no one is going to be happy!!

as one man told me... best orgasm he ever hand he gave to himself

it's ok that way.
you know your body and its needs better than any one else

They not pushing the right buttons and only thinking of themselves

Frankly, it's because 9 out of 10 males out there, just want to cum and get out.

I'm completely the opposite tbh, but I'm an exception.

Thanks for your input =]

Try a dog... I heard they can give pleasure and are good lovers =P Yes I'm serious.

No really only if you really love animals that'd be a good suggestion...

Just keep on trying finding a good lover...