Is it normal that nothing ever seems to make me happy?

I've been "sad" for a very long time. Probably about 11 years, now. Pretty much ever since highschool, actually.

I've tried everything - medication, psychiatric stays, doctors, therapists, group therapy, etc.

I just seem generally melancholy all of the time. Nothing excites me at all! I could be on a rollercoaster, partying, being with friends, having sex, and I am still somehow miserable.

I don't have any friends, either, but at the same time I don't desire friends because people are draining to me.

I can't do drugs or drink excessively because it puts me in a "bad place". So there seems to be no escape from it...

Sometimes I don't even know why I am here. But it may make me feel a little better to know there are people out there with the same problem.

As much as I am not much of a people person, I do like to listen to other people talk.

Is It Normal?
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  • Can't say I agree with that comment. I also had a very down mood for a large part of my life, in fact, I think I may have smiled twise over the period of 6/7 years, and they weren't real. Nothing made me happy, and getting out of bed in the morning just wasn't worth it. Then one day, I met a guy who just made me smile, within 10 minutes of me meeting him. He had me laughing second time we met. Sinse then, he's been "teaching" me how to be happy, how to make friends and how to be another happy little smiley face. Now when I was down, I thought I was fine, but looking back at that, I see just how hideously down I was. No one wants to be alone, no one wants to be unhappy. That's something he told me. It's something which i've finally come to understand. It's not easy being in your place, and unforunately, it is somewhat normal, but bare through it, and you'll bloom into something beautiful.

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    • hmm,you're making urself sound easy,like u jus needed a person that gives damns about u,that true? cmon dont say u regret ur past and yea a smile doesnt mean ur happy it means ur alive,it's the thought,that being unhappy is bad that might cause u more trouble,always trying forcefully ta be happy,then again u decide for urself what actually makes u happy n what not,
      hope ya come back to check ur comments

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  • Think about what you really wanna do with your life. Perhaps you're not happy with your career?

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  • Sounds like you're having a hard time, but you're strong, you've managed this far, so don't give up now.

    I've been in a similar situation. I know how you feel, although not quite to the same extent. Trust me on this, just because your finding it hard now, doesn't mean things will always be this way, you will find a way out and you will be happy again!

    I think sometimes trying too hard to be happy, can work to your disadvantage. In trying so hard, you'll get your hopes up only to be disappointed. My advice is to not think about it too much, don't think about the fact that you're not happy, just be happy, just live. Be who you are, if you don't enjoy spending time around other people, then find activities you can do alone. There are always things you can do, but personally, i don't think medication is the answer. Try living in the moment.

    Anyway, whatever you do, i hope you get better.
    Good luck!

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  • Everyones different, maybe you just feel you are abnormal because majority of the world isn't like you. I personally fight that stuff with all my being, things like exercise, and camomile tea, forcing yourself into those situations you hate, sometimes these things work. I also take ginseng on occasion, it's great for an extra boost

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  • I'm not really sure what to tell you since I am feeling the same way at the moment. Honestly, I don't know what the solution is :/ I really hope things get better for you though. If you have been able to hang in there for the past 11 years, you are a very strong person and I am sure you will one day feel happiness again. The universe has to balance itself out, for all those years of suffering will come moments of joy too. Just find a bit of hope and hold on to it and never let go!
    Good luck and take care :)

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    • Thanks... I guess if I think about it, even though I am miserable, I am still here. And as bad of a thing that I think that is most of the time, I guess it says something.

      It would be nice if the universe balanced itself out, yes... it seems as though all the people who don't deserve it have the better luck.

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  • rdy to read a lil?

    I feel u there,it's ur personality. psychiatrists n ppl dont give a shit,ppl who dont care when u tell em something will just bring u down. u know whats worse than being unhappy,when ur in a situation that forces u to do something u dont want to do at all.ppl tire u right? like laughing even tho u dont find it funny. well n society sees being not happy as bad,what if it's alright tho? always thought it's sick how we keep trying to find happiness,so foolish. don't waste ur time thinkin bout stuff like that,theres not one reason why we're here. someone important to me died and ambulance men treated that dying man like shit. would love to beat those fucks up someday n no one cared bout him he had no relatives,u know.it's rly not worth that thought,less is to cut urself,i dont quite get that exchange one pain for another pain thing,society feels like pure shit for one who isn't known n isnt seen as god like actors or singers,as long as u decide to live,do somethin to entertain urself,playing games or stuff,makes staying worthwhile

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  • I think you might considering to try marijuana.

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