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All of my friends constantly have guys wanting to date them, and actually all of my friends have boyfriends (or girlfriends) but it seems like no one wants to date me. I am short, and overweight. But I don't think my personality is all that bad. I am nice to everyone I meet, and I don't judge people over stupid things and I am really understanding. Yet no one seems to be interested in me.
Try to eat better and get out and excercise. There's no reason to be so young and already exposing yourself to health conditions that could be avoided. That said, quit worrying so much about boys and dates. Focus on school, improving yourself, and your self esteem. Lack of confidence really drives sane men off.
Head to the gym, boost your confidence, eat less, get a make over and buy some new clothes. Boys will probably start flocking. Takes a lot of time and energy, but you will likely gain more friends and start dating. Reduces your chances of being a cat lady in the end.
Oh ya, get a tan. That always helps.
Look people are shallow. It sucks. Guys are and girls are. Unfortunately for you guys are even shallower. Fortunately though we are less picky. My advice is exercise. I used to be short and skinny. I thought I could never get a girl to like me. THen I started working out every single day. Pushing myself to a new limit. Things change. If you want guys to like you have to work for it. I'm sure your a sweet girl. That is what will make guys want to stay with you, but to sink them in, you have to be sexy. It sucks, but you can do it. YOu just gotta believe.
I felt this way often when I was younger. The problem was that guys always saw me as the marrying type and not the dating type so I never dated. I lacked the self confidence to go after what I wanted and it made me feel very alone at times. Eventually I met someone who wasn't afraid of me but we didn't start "dating" until a friend manipulated us into it.
Ok, now we're in the realms of me. I never understand when a girl says something like this, because most of my life (I'll use the recent body type post as reference) I've been a 7. A chubby, yet with a proportionate body, big ass and thighs, small tits, small waist, so to speak, type of girl. And I have never suffered shortage of men, or women, and NEVER been single ever since I started dating. Actually, I sometimes had more than one boyfriend at a time. (Slut!) It doesn't hurt that I've always had a pretty face and very nice hair, but I always invested in my personality and mind, and I'm pretty sure that is part of what attracted the men I had.
It's funny that only now that I'm, I'd say, a 6 maybe, I'm single for the first time in my life and no one wants to date me. :(
hahaha
My only advice:
LOVE YOURSELF FIRST.
It's a cliche, but there's a reason why it is one.
BELIEVE IN YOUR PASSIONS.
They are a great part of who you are and they are what make you interesting, to yourself and others.
Maybe I'm naive but I actually think people are less shallow than they seem. Sometimes people pretend to like something (or not like something) just so they don't stand out from the crowd. People are afraid of being honest if it means someone questions it.
I also don't think your weight or height or anything like that is necessarily a turn-off to people. However, with the attitudes people "say" they have about weight, I can understand anyone feeling bad about themselves or undateable. Often times, our impression of ourselves becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy and people may not think of you as dateworthy because, on some level, you don't see yourself that way.
I'm not suggesting this applies to you. Just something I've noticed in others.