Most of the people responding are flat out ignoring a key element to your story. "The motivation of this new male friend". Sure, it might be that she just had that "wavelenghth" spark and it was totally innocent in her mind. (So yes, women can have friends) But what about him? What was "he" thinking or on his mind? 99% of the time when a man does this kind of thing with a woman, he "wants her" or is at least thinking about it. (unless is a complete work related thing or professional networking). The reason we men, even the secure confident ones, don't want our wives or girlfriends making "new" friends with men, is because we know what most men are thinking when we just call it "friends". So yeah, I'd be a little worried here.
Here's an idea, if it's just a "friend" why not invite the guy out for drinks with the "two of you?" Don't you and your wife go out with 'other' mutual friends? So why not him. If she refused, or didn't like it, I'd be worried. If he "refused", you now know what he was thinking. Not to mention, then you'd get to see what he looks like, how he acts with her, and what this "wavelenth" thing is all about. You can also speak to him mano to mano and quietly put him in his place when she goes to the restroom that this new "friendship" had better be just that.
Is it normal that my wife spoke with a stranger at a coffee shop?
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Most of the people responding are flat out ignoring a key element to your story. "The motivation of this new male friend". Sure, it might be that she just had that "wavelenghth" spark and it was totally innocent in her mind. (So yes, women can have friends) But what about him? What was "he" thinking or on his mind? 99% of the time when a man does this kind of thing with a woman, he "wants her" or is at least thinking about it. (unless is a complete work related thing or professional networking). The reason we men, even the secure confident ones, don't want our wives or girlfriends making "new" friends with men, is because we know what most men are thinking when we just call it "friends". So yeah, I'd be a little worried here.
Here's an idea, if it's just a "friend" why not invite the guy out for drinks with the "two of you?" Don't you and your wife go out with 'other' mutual friends? So why not him. If she refused, or didn't like it, I'd be worried. If he "refused", you now know what he was thinking. Not to mention, then you'd get to see what he looks like, how he acts with her, and what this "wavelenth" thing is all about. You can also speak to him mano to mano and quietly put him in his place when she goes to the restroom that this new "friendship" had better be just that.