Is it normal that my wife has no sexual fantasies

i have fantasies but my wife says she has none. i try to talk dirty to her but she is not interested. i wish she would be more adventurous with me and live fantasies,. is it normal that she has no interest in fantasies

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55% Normal
Based on 64 votes (35 yes)
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  • CreamPuffs

    She has them, she's just lying. Everyone has fantasies unless they utterly lack a sex drive.

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    • Maid_in_Pink

      I think we've got some mixed words happening. I think he is perceiving sexual fantasies as fetishes or exciting sexual acts and you might be too.

      Women are no strangers to just enjoying their partner in that capacity. Some women fantasize about nothing more than a super hot makeout session and that might be it. Others have trouble doing things like dirty talk and things like that because they like to experience things with their partner as opposed to sitting around dreaming about it or they haven't ever done or spent time thinking about being adventurous between the sheets...or in the kitchen, or on the stairs...or that one time while you were bent over the back of his car and he just...ahem..excuse me, I got sidetracked.

      The point is that not all women nor men spend their time fantasizing about sex. It's actually not extremely uncommon to find a girl that doesn't have dirty fantasies at all.

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      • CreamPuffs

        I didn't mean fetishes or anything. I meant sexual fantasies.

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    • That's not true. I had a girl like that. They have almost no sexual desires, or barely any...I broke up, I am happier than ever about sexuality now

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      • CreamPuffs

        "unless they utterly lack a sex drive"

        Read the whole comment please.

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        • RoyalSunshine

          Like me, I'm asexual

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          • CreamPuffs

            Precisely.

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  • rayb12

    Gotta fucking learn that shit before you put a ring on it dude. You married Her, it's unfair you want to change her. Have to accept for who she is. Some people are like this and I don't think they change.
    Think about it, the sexual fantasies that you have, you KNOW that you have them, they're there without you even trying. I think the best you can do is let her know how important this is to you so hopefully she will participate for your sake and maybe enjoy the pleasure she gives you. Good luck man

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    • rayb12

      I understand the frustration that comes with not having your fantasies fulfilled, but you can NOT put this on her dude. She is who she is and it is not her fault that she isn't wired like you. Yes it is normal some people have lower sex drive/ less kinky/ or even uninterested in anything sexual at all. This isn't their fault or something that she is doing 'to you'.
      Also maybe I misread, so sorry for harshness.

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    • roadrunner7777

      thanks for your reply. i love her just the way she is.dont want to change her, just didnt know if this was normal. i really appreciate the voting results as it helps me to understand her better. i am older and fear that i cannot please her so i was encouraging fantasies for her benefit.

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      • rayb12

        Ah ok, of course, good luck to you both

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  • quivver

    Yeah, she's lying to you buddy...she has fantasies. It's just none of them involve you.

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  • freedom2

    Some people just can't go there and to keep trying can be a waste of time

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  • JonathanOo

    Some people simply less. Others don't like them known. And mostly we're all different. So if dirty talking isn't working stop banginf your head against the wall. Try something different at least. Like candles, a nice dinner for her. Clean, or read something sweet. That used to turn my friend on WAYYYY more. Rough sex and dirty talking can be such a turn off. I hate it personally

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  • Dorheavo

    She has them, trust me, everyone has them. For some reason she is not sharing them with you. Many people remain guarded in this area for many different reasons with feeling vulnerable being the top one I'd bet. They could also be so wild and bizarre she is embarrassed, I mean its a possibility.

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  • It means she's not for you. I had a girlfriend like that, we were together for 2 years and I was very unhappy. I broke up with her because of that and then I've found a nympho. I was really happy. Find another woman, don't lie to yourself.

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  • SoulfulPassion

    It is hard to believe that some people don't have any sexual fantasies, but I know those people do exist. Some people aren't as sexual and sensual as others. Or maybe she has fantasies but isn't comfortable talking about it, so it's easier for her to deny them. Either way, you two can explore wonderful, exciting sex without talking about or acting on fantasies if you both have very creative minds.

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  • Scarlettx87

    Maybe you are putting pressure on her you don't realise and she isn't ready to reveil her fantasy to you.. it is a personal thing. I'm sure there are plenty of other things you can do together... or maybe talk about a compromise I don't know, say an all over body massage for her fulfilling a night of one of your fantasies. Marriage is about compromise so I'm told. But it's also about honesty. Don't have a go or deliberately guilt trip her but tell her how important it is to you and tell her your willing to give her whatever it is she wants in return for this. But as stated, you really should have found this out before marriage if it is so important to you, it's not fair throwing it on her now and resenting her ( if you do end up resenting her I mean)

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  • Claireuttley

    She probably doesnt want to mention her boss, the student next door, the football team and Rover the dog from the park....

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  • Sillyneko

    Probably just not a high libido

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  • EchoMaster

    No such thing as a woman with no fantasies. There is such a thing, however, of woman that don't have fantasies with you.

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  • Canadian_Couple

    FOKS - The question is - "is it NORMAL". AKA - majority of the population. Certainly there are "SOME" that don't have any sexual fantasies but I wouldn't even begin to suggest that its the popular (common) choice. SO, for this question one would think the reply would favor "NOT NORMAL". 76% normal? WTF? I think - if that's so, then mankind is in big trouble and in due time we should see extinction seeing very few think about (or want to have) sex. LOL

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  • ronthetech

    I personally think that she is lying.

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  • dicka912

    She may of had some bad sexual experiences as a child and just doesn't think of sex much.

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