Is it normal that my wife gets changed infront of her male co-workers

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My wife is the headchef in an office restaraunt. During the day she is in her chef whites.

A couple of times a month, they have to provide fancy meals to the top partners in the company. Usually this is because the partners are entertaining clients. This is usually in the evening and is usually silver service.

Now my wife oversees most of the cooking, but when it is getting close to serving time, she changes her clothes as she then acts as head waitress.

I found out a couple of months ago, she does not go off to a change room to change her clothes but changes in the office area in the corner of the kitchen which is in full site from the other staff in the kitchen. She says she has not got time to go to the other side of the building to the changing room.

She says that the guys seeing her in her underwear is no different to seeing her in a bikini. However, a lot of the underwear she wears is lacy or even very see-thru mesh.

I found out when I attended one of her works social dos, when one of the mail chefs commented to me that my wife hs very sexy underwear. I was quite shocked to hear him say that. I know that the kitchen enviroment is not very politically correct and there is lots of sexual banter (which my wife loves), but this is a little different.

Is it normal that she undresses infront of her male co-workers?

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  • Averageasfuck
    5 years ago | pl

    She's fucking other dudes

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  • Sly2uc
    5 years ago

    You are on your way to being a cuckold. Congratulations on losing your man card.

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    • [Old Memory]
      5 years ago

      He seems to accept this as well as advice from all the sluts so I guess it's his choice after all.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    Your wife wants to cheat on you and you risk to become a cuckold. Also most people here encourage in this direction, saying that it's normal, but it's very abnormal. Remember that this place is full of sluts and cucks, so their advice is not really unbiased.

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    • pants1981
      5 years ago

      I appreciate your concern. I am pretty sure my wife died not want to cheat on my. At most she probably be up for some experimental concential fun.

      I agree that I am not really going to receive unbiased views. Everyone had a bias of some kind whether it be cuck, slutty, traditionalist or something else.

      Fortunately I am my own person and I am able to make my own mind up on things and choose which points to listen to.

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      • [Old Memory]
        5 years ago

        That is good for you. But the experimental concential fun you are talking about is called cuckoldry. It's not sex, but you enjoy her promiscuity in a sexual way. It is your choice, but you must be aware of that. Also you must be aware that once you go this way, the current is strong and you will join this side, sooner or later, more or less. And you will also end up supporting adultery and sexual exploration and all this, even if you are not exactly fully practicing it. Once you are fully into that area, you might lose the control over yourself.

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        • nikkiclaire
          5 years ago

          Are you talking to yourself? I saw pants misspelling consensual "concential". Then you did it too?. Is that a brit spelling or something? It's too weird to be coincident.

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          • pants1981
            5 years ago

            No it's not brit spelling, it's just bad spelling. I think they just copied my bad spelling!!

            And no I am not talking to myself. Although, if I did, it might be more fruitful than conversations with some of other people on here

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          • [Old Memory]
            5 years ago

            That's his top 1% university education! Remember, spelling and grammar were NOT a part of their required curriculum!!!

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        • pants1981
          5 years ago

          Once again, I appreciate your concern. I didn't actually say the experimental fun would be of a cuckold nature.

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          • [Old Memory]
            5 years ago

            It is, that's not something you consider or identify. That is what you do. You might refuse to believe, but this doesn't mean it's not true. You should be ready to accept it once you go this way. This is of cuckold nature. And you might want more after that. Or you might stop there. Your choice.

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            • pants1981
              5 years ago

              Sounds like you have had 1st hand experience of being a cuck. You seem to be very confident on exactly how it all happens

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          • nikkiclaire
            5 years ago

            Dont worry ddavidd is a cuck and wants everyone else to be a cuck or slut

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    Does the mail chef also work for the post office?

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    • pants1981
      5 years ago

      haha, I can see my mistake. No is does not work for the post office

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      • [Old Memory]
        5 years ago

        She should wear workout shorts and a sports bra instead of underwear on those days. Although it sounds like she might not care and be a bit of an exhibitionist which is harmless, but the coworkers eyeballing her may not be.

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        • pants1981
          5 years ago

          She is a bit of ane exhibitionist which I don't have a major problem with.

          I think she enjoys her coworkers attention. I know she likes the sexual banter. I have heard some of it when I have joined their social evenings out and it is very x-rated!

          I also know that in the kitchen things get a little touchly feely at times e.g. pinching, slapping and fondly other peoples butts. I think my wife does it to the guys as much as they do to her. She says it is all just harmless fun.

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          • [Old Memory]
            5 years ago

            So it’s not a question of normalcy, the question is how much you care. Only you can answer that.

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            • pants1981
              5 years ago

              As I said, it is not really an issue for me. I just thought it was a bit unusual.

              I am not a jealous husband in anyway.

              One of the things I find most attractive about my wife is that she is free and uninhibited

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  • Uniquegirl54
    5 years ago

    She's a thot. You don't need no thot.

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  • TheHolyButter
    5 years ago

    No. It a not normal. Make sure you tell your wife respectfully (but firmly), not to engage in such a thing as changing her clothes in front of male co-workers, especially as others are commenting about it. Tell her she deserves respect and doing this is making others think of her disrespectfully, that might change her behaviour.

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  • Babygirl17
    5 years ago

    More than likely it means she likes the men.

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  • _confused_
    5 years ago

    It's normal, I don't see anything too bad about it

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    As long as she is comfortable with it, it shouldn't be a problem. You don't own her and you should not hassle her about this. Tell her your concerns by all means but if she decides she is happy keeping things as they are then you should just drop the subject.

    If it were me and you kept on at me about it I would be inclined to, 'forget' to wear any underwear next time we had one of those occasions. Then I would make a point of telling you how I forgot to put my knickers on that morning and how when I got changed I forgot I wasn't wearing any. I would make sure you knew how a load of my male co-workers had copped a good eyefull.

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    • Sly2uc
      5 years ago | pl

      It’s his wife...He absolutely has a right to tell her to stop showing other guys her body. You are ridiculous.

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    • pants1981
      5 years ago

      I am careful not to hassle her about it. She is strong willed person and if I really pissed her off, I am pretty sure she would do something along the lines you that you have suggested and more.

      To clarify, it is not causing me a major issue. I was more interested in finding out if it was particularly unusual.

      I am not a jealous husband at all. My wife is very flirty and I have seen her many times flirt with other guys right in front of me. In fact, it makes me want her even more when I see her so confident and sexual. I also know that I am the one who she will be in bed with that night and not the guy she is flirting with.

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      • [Old Memory]
        5 years ago

        Good call, well done. If your wife accepts you as being in charge of things and making decisions about her actions that's one thing, but if she is comfortable making her own choices then she should feel free to do so.

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        • pants1981
          5 years ago

          I think we have a fairly healthy relationship. We never really have issues about "me being in charge" or her doing her own thing, even if I don't like it. Instead, we both try and taken into account the others feelings when choosing what we do. Some people don't seem to understand that a person can put their partner first sometimes because they want to rather than because their partner insists.

          If it was causing me a big issue with the undressing at work, I am pretty sure my wife would stop it, not because I had insisted, but because she knows I would be happier. As it is, the more I think about it, the more comfortable I feel about it.

          All I can say is Sly2uc hasn't got a clue and obviously has big insecurity issues of his own!!!

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  • AngelLoc
    5 years ago

    No, its not normal. And buy her room divider.

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  • LionsMane
    5 years ago

    To an extent I would say probably. I worked at a convention center that had a built in dining service. Those events can be so fast paced and demanding that people really do just have no time to do everything the way that they may prefer to.

    It was out of line for that guy to say that to you though. But I can see your concerns. Those people in dining services sometimes hangout after work or after events. Seeing her undressed could definitely spark some thoughts if she ever spent time with her crew outside of work.

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    • pants1981
      5 years ago

      After reading your comment i started to wonder if anything inappropriate had happened at an after work event. So I just asked my wife and she said that nothing had happened at any work do from this work place. I pointed out that she had only been there a couple of years so what about at the previous work place. She then said something happened once but only once and that she was very sorry she hadn't told me.

      She has now confessed what happened this one time. It was when her and her co-workers had gone out to celebrate her 30th birthday. They had gone clubbing and she had got very drunk. They had left the club at about 2am and were walking back to one of the groups house. I think there was about 4 guys and 4 girls.

      They cut through a big park as a shortcut. One of the younger female co-workers, who was well known for promiscuity, suddenly told everyone to stop walking. She pointed out that my wife had got away with nothing bad being done to her at her hen do a couple of years ago and that they should make up for it now. Apparently everyone agreed apart from one guy who objected. But the others decided to remove her dress e nd leave her in just her thong. My wife says she didn't remember much at this point as she was very drunk. Then they all run off with her dress and left her there. The only person who stayed was the guy who had objected to it. He took off his jacket and gave to he to cover up. The guy said she could come back to his place to get a taxi.

      She remembers going into his house and then starting crying and then him holding her to comfort her. She then remembers starting to kiss him and well to cut a long story short she ended up in his bed. She woke up early in the morning and she says she felt so ashamed of what had happened. She left his house with him still asleep. She had to borrow one his t-shirts and joggers. She then walked the 3 miles home.

      I am so upset this had happened. Now some people on here will have a right go at me by right now I am so angry with the people who stripped her and the guy who took advantage of her. My current thoughts are she was the victim here rather than the guilt one

      Have I got this completely wrong?

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      • TheHolyButter
        5 years ago

        The guy who stayed back to comfort her wasn't the bad guy there and he didn't take advantage of her. Sure she was drunk, but woudn't he have been drunk too? Whatever happened in the heat of the moment wasn't the guys fault.
        And yes, a lot of people would disagree with me but your wife is at fault. Getting drunk so as to lose control over herself with certain male friends isn't a respectable option if you plan to preserve yourself. What's a male to do?
        And I say this, being a girl.

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      • LionsMane
        5 years ago

        Well, it varies from person to person. I personally would not be okay with it. She sounds like she finds herself slipping regularly. 85% of the time, those slips might not mean much...but that 15% is what gets her...and more importantly you. She should have told you then, not now. I believe you should move on from this person as it sounds like you deserve someone more secure.

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  • pants1981
    5 years ago

    I had another conversation with my wife about it and she has told me a little more about what is happening. I am still taking it in and I am not sure what I think at the moment, so I will just tell you about it with sharing my thoughts on it.

    Apparently, the 1st couple of times she got changed infront of them she had got everyone to turn their backs. But on the 3rd time, a couple of the guys turned round and looked at her. She had a right go at them for it. A few days later she overheard them discussing how hot she had looked in her underwear and this made her feel good about herself. She is in her early thirties and has started too worry she is starting to look unattractive, so this helped her confidence.

    So the next time she got changed she didn't ask them to turn their backs. This was about 6 months ago. She has also confessed that she started to deliberately to pick out her sexiest lingerie for when she knows she will be changing infront of them.

    She said about 1 month ago, things went a little further. She said she had taken off her chef whites and was standing in just a lacy thong and see-thru bra. A couple of the guys then came over to her (they used to excuse that they needed to know about the timings of the different courses they were going to be serving). As they were talking, one of them put his hand on her butt and caressed it. She says nothing else happened and they didn't try to get her to do more. My wife is generally a very truthful person, so if more had happened, I think she would have told me.

    She has said to me, if I was really unhappy, she would stop everything right away.

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    • TheHolyButter
      5 years ago

      How can you listen to such stuff coming from your wife? Ask her, am I not enough to make you feel beautiful? Is my love not enough for you? Tell her to stop it, man! Man up, will you?

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    • LionsMane
      5 years ago

      Yeah man, I don't like all that

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  • flawhuman
    5 years ago

    wow something new i learned today

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  • nikkiclaire
    5 years ago

    Sometimes you just have to be practical. No biggie.

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  • Iszzy123
    5 years ago

    Normal? No
    Convenient? Yes

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  • McBean
    5 years ago

    She is asserting her authority.

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    • [Old Memory]
      5 years ago

      Yeah the authority of behaving like a slut.

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      • nikkiclaire
        5 years ago

        Nothing wrong with that.

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        • [Old Memory]
          5 years ago

          Yeah nothing wrong with being a slut while being married. Absolutely normal. It's not like it's completely retarded and violates the sanctity of a marriage. Sure thing.

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          • nikkiclaire
            5 years ago

            Marriages bleck.

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      • McBean
        5 years ago

        Yeah. The authority of, "I say when."

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    • TheHolyButter
      5 years ago

      Why did she marry then? What's the point of being married then? She obviously doesn't respect her marriage, and her husband is laughable, asking questions like this on the net... is it normal? Haha, where have the men gone??

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      • McBean
        5 years ago

        Please, please, take a deep breath. Now, I am only speculating. But, I would guess that she married her husband because she enjoyed his submissiveness. I would also guess that she has no respect for the male coworkers she changes in front of. When her clothes are on she is probably an arrogant bitch. Do you want to be used by her? Probably not. Do certain males enjoy her abuse? Yes, of course.

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  • farkelu
    5 years ago

    I'll need to see photos of her in her lacy see-thru underwear before I can advise you on this issue ;-)

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    • TheHolyButter
      5 years ago

      I was sure he would not object to your seeing that. Nor would he get offended. He would actually show you.
      But anyways.. looks like he's actually behaving like a real husband for once.

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    • pants1981
      5 years ago

      Nice try. 2 things I can assure you of:

      1. She looks stunning in her sexy lingerie and you would find pics of her so so sexy and they would drive you wild

      2. You will never actually see pics of her in her lingerie!!!

      But nice try.

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      • farkelu
        5 years ago

        Yeah, I actually expected you to invent a way to post photos here and then post photos of your wife in lingerie.

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  • Mehereok1
    5 years ago

    The service business in general is filled with that kind of stuff. Cooks, chefs,etc, showing off and getting hands-on with servers or staff. Can't tell you how many stories a bartender/manager friend of mine has told me about server girls grabbing him, which women were ok with the occasional walk-by ass slap, who was doing who in the stockroom..Just lends itself to that line of work.

    Even in other businesses, you get people who like to have fun and show off. My former business associate and very good friend often got changed in my car. She and I got along exceptionally well (people thought we were either married or together, and, we did make a good couple), and she was comfortable with it. We'd be on the road, but heading home, or to an event, and she'd pull her pants and shirt off, be bare down below (she wasn't one for underwear..maybe a thong at most), fix her makeup and long, curly, jet-black hair that women envied, and get changed as I drove or sat in the parking lot with her as she prepared. Was just a normal thing for us.

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    • pants1981
      5 years ago

      Yeah, it does seem like this kind of behaviour is accepted and even encouraged in this line of work. My wife says quite of few of the staff in the kitchen have been known to sneak of to the storeroom together.

      Before I met her she used to work as a chef at a Fire Service training facility. She was young and surrounded by young trainee fireman. She gave quite a few of them extra helpings. She says at least 30 of them over a 2 year period. This doesn't bother me as it was before I knew her and actually, I find her large sex drive very attractive. But I think it also made her think it is the norm for the catering industry to be a sexualised environment.

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      • Mehereok1
        5 years ago

        I have many friends in the service industry, and they all pretty much admit..Everybody is with everybody, and we know their secrets. Even one manager I knew. Hot as hell, female, smoking-hot body, very long nails probably too long for her job..She was known to grab her cook's asses and flaunt her 44D tits in notably low-cut tops. Also heard, from more than one person, she had a habit of picking out her favorites and closing her office door for "private meetings".

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