IIN that my uncle is asking about my dad's benefits?

my father lived about 1 year 1/2 in that coma bed ridden. i was 21 yrs at the time thru out that time he didnt participate in doctors (over 15 mettings) meetings, soicial security appiontments, medicare, medicaid, i was most worried about the medical aspect of this frist! at the time of my fathers death, me and my brothers paid for the funeral with our money. we r young, my brothers are 20 ,21. my uncles are well established more then us!...(fathers)job held a fund raiser and he (uncle) collected it like as if hes been the one stuggling with cash and bought flowers with it 4 the funeral! makes me mad that they couldnt even buy flowers!