And Narcissistic Personality Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder. The descriptions and categories in DSM-IV are too nebulous and have way too much overlap. That said, psych is a very important and useful field of study.
Mom married for the third time last year and she seems to have improved a bit from hanging around with a "normal" guy. Maybe he calls her out for her BS. She's a lot less "out there" now. She doesn't come out with as much absurd commentary as she used to. I know she used to love winding me up and probably still does but he gets her in line, at least a little bit.
I wrote a book in 2005 that got published in 2007 and she'd say stuff like,
"There are so many terrible books out there. So much crap gets published."
Never once did she congratulate me and she's never bought a copy. She is the most passive-aggressive person I've ever met. When I graduated college, she went off the deep end for not inviting her to the ceremony, even though I hadn't seen her for six years.
On the positive side, she is capable of genuine kindness and she can be quite a warm person. She's also hard-working and talented.
Wowsers, I didn't wan't to bring DSM-IV into it because people are often offended when they feel you analyze them or their loved ones but you hit the nail on the head. Passive aggressive is right. I smell a touch of jealousy in there also. I also see that narcissistic personality shinning through. She was upset about not being at the graduation and somehow made it about her, how dismayed she was, hurt she was, offended she was. when she hadn't spoken to you in years and placed her men before your well being. I still feel that you need to haul her butt to counseling because it will only give way to another situation in which she feels "justified" in her behavior because no one is telling her it's wrong. As for your book and graduation I'm proud of you! You should mentor because there's so many young people who go through this and give up! Your story is hope. The next time Mommy Dearest is upset and attempts to make your success about her let her know that you aren't where you are because of what she did for you but in spite of what she did to you.
So true. Apparently, analyzing people using all of your psych knowledge, as I'm sometimes prone to do, is socially destructive. So I try not to do it. If someone asks for your advice or pays you for your advice it's OK.
IIN that my parents ignored it when I ran away from home at 16?
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And Narcissistic Personality Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder. The descriptions and categories in DSM-IV are too nebulous and have way too much overlap. That said, psych is a very important and useful field of study.
Mom married for the third time last year and she seems to have improved a bit from hanging around with a "normal" guy. Maybe he calls her out for her BS. She's a lot less "out there" now. She doesn't come out with as much absurd commentary as she used to. I know she used to love winding me up and probably still does but he gets her in line, at least a little bit.
I wrote a book in 2005 that got published in 2007 and she'd say stuff like,
"There are so many terrible books out there. So much crap gets published."
Never once did she congratulate me and she's never bought a copy. She is the most passive-aggressive person I've ever met. When I graduated college, she went off the deep end for not inviting her to the ceremony, even though I hadn't seen her for six years.
On the positive side, she is capable of genuine kindness and she can be quite a warm person. She's also hard-working and talented.
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Wowsers, I didn't wan't to bring DSM-IV into it because people are often offended when they feel you analyze them or their loved ones but you hit the nail on the head. Passive aggressive is right. I smell a touch of jealousy in there also. I also see that narcissistic personality shinning through. She was upset about not being at the graduation and somehow made it about her, how dismayed she was, hurt she was, offended she was. when she hadn't spoken to you in years and placed her men before your well being. I still feel that you need to haul her butt to counseling because it will only give way to another situation in which she feels "justified" in her behavior because no one is telling her it's wrong. As for your book and graduation I'm proud of you! You should mentor because there's so many young people who go through this and give up! Your story is hope. The next time Mommy Dearest is upset and attempts to make your success about her let her know that you aren't where you are because of what she did for you but in spite of what she did to you.
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So true. Apparently, analyzing people using all of your psych knowledge, as I'm sometimes prone to do, is socially destructive. So I try not to do it. If someone asks for your advice or pays you for your advice it's OK.