Is it normal that my parents are this controlling?

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For as long as i can remember my parents have been really strict, and controlling with me and my sister. I pretty much have to hide my R rated movies, my 3 cds with parental guidance labels on them, or any M rated video games. I have to lie a lot of the time to do things i want, which i hate doing but i've tried countless times to talk to them and nothing changes.

I have to be home by 9:30 or 10 even on weekends. I'm often harassed by them via text messages, i'm phoned in public places if i don't call my mother. I get ignored for a week for buying a laptop with my own money.My parents once bought a dvd player that bleeps out the bad words. Quite frankly, that's a little much if you ask me.

Since i got back together with an ex boyfriend a month ago, they've gotten a lot worse. For example, Sunday night because of all the snow i was going to stay with him instead of trying to drive back 20 miles. This didn't sit well with my parents, they kept saying how i'm making a big mistake and threatened to call the police on me.(I'm 23)

Well, i came home to everything being blamed on my boyfriend. My parents we're pretty much accusing him of conning me into staying with him, or peer pressuring me into doing so. They thought he was keeping me there against my will.

Ever since then (over the past 3 days) they keep accusing him and won't listen to reason. They even said i don't need to be with someone that drinks out of nowhere(he rarely drinks, and when he does its in the comfort of his own home and has nothing to do with the situation).

Then my dad keeps saying how if i plan on doing this again i need to pack my things and get out.

Not to mention, i was told i shouldn't be doing things like this until i'm married.

I honestly, just don't know what to do anymore because even when i do move out it won't be with a girl(i don't have any female friends), and that will just piss them off and they'll stop talking to me for it.

I'm never going to please them or be the way they want me to be.

Is this normal? Anyone been through something similar?

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  • ShayDay
    13 years ago

    Go live with ur boyfriend and tell the fuckers to jump off a bridge.

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  • VerdeGato
    13 years ago

    Your 23... Shouldn't you have a job or be in college or something? If I'm living with my parents at 23 then I'll most likely blow my brains out.

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  • jenn
    13 years ago

    That's so horrible and not loving parents

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  • DudeUrFuglyXox
    13 years ago

    i think you should move ou, it might be hard because you love them and everything but what theyre doing isnt right. you 23!!! youre an adult and you can do what you want, even if they called the police on you they couldnt do anything because you are in charge of yourself. If you move out theyll relise they can keep treating you like your five. If they say youll thank them for it or anything, you wont! youll look back and think of all the stuff you wasted, being young is bout having fun not running around after your mum and dad.

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  • Risen_beauty
    13 years ago

    Do whatever you can to move out. Let them freak out. They'll see that you're fine and get over it. Or they won't. Either way, you are miserable and you need a change. This is your life. Don't waste it trying to please people who can't be pleased.

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  • Powermad80
    13 years ago

    Send them a video email where, at the start, it looks like you are getting ready to do it with ur girl, but then stop. (don't actually do it in the video) Say how they are very mean especially for your age, you are 23 and that they can't tell you what to do. Then try to explain your reasoning, and then say: "you can do one of 2 things right now, accept this reason and logic, relax, and ease up on the control freak-ness, or you can keep watching after the 3 second fade to black. (fades to black) (3 seconds later) "Ok, since you are watching this, it means you refuse to treat me like my age and you believe that you are right in all of your reasoning. In this case, you can go fuck off. Yeah, I said it. Why? Because I'm an adult an I can. You can expect never to be invited to my wedding, Christmas events, or anything. As of now, you are no longer significant people in my life. Don't ever expect a call, letter, or email ever again from me. You have officially failed as parents." (End video fading to black as you raise your middle finger)

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  • dappled
    13 years ago

    In a word, yes. I have controlling, abusive parents. They think it's fun to also control my lifelong friends and turn them against me! To be fair to them, my parents are... actually, I'm sticking with the the original hypothesis. My parents are wankers.

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  • nsxyy
    13 years ago

    Yupp parents are the same way. They'll eventually learn to stop. Your old enough don't mind them get a job and move out

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    I'm not sure why you're still living at home at 23 years of age.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    yes i agree move out, make plans for it. your father has made it easy for you to go by threatening you to pack your bags. If you stay that will be silly i think. try to stay friends they arent all that bad

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  • DannyKanes
    13 years ago

    You just do what makes YOU happy fuck anyone else, no matter who they are. Or take you Dad's advice and pack up and leave the crazy Nazis to themselves

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  • aussiewolf
    13 years ago

    yeah my parents were really strict on me too. i was never allowed a boyfriend and had to be home at a reasonable hour. they tried to tell me to not be friends with certain people because they didnt like them. my dad used to hit me a lot, even just for being on the phone with a friend for two minutes too long. i lied to my parents all the time about who i was with and where i was going.

    but when i grew up and matured a little bit, got a part time job, they started to respect me and lifted a lot of the rules they put on me.

    now that i am married and trying to start a family of my own, i understand where they were coming from, they just wanted to protect me and make sure nothing bad happened to me.

    you didnt mention in your post if you work or not. maybe you arent showing the maturity of a 23 year old so they still see you as their rebellious teenager. try showing responsibility and maturity and see if that changes how they treat you.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      13 years ago

      I've actually been working for four years now and, most of the time i try and do what i should.

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  • ThatKidTotallyRocks
    12 years ago

    Your parents aren't anywhere near as overprotective as mine are and I'm 23.

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  • nAt2017
    12 years ago

    If you're an adult... then they really don't have much of a right to control you. But their parenting choices are up to them. I suggest you try to talk with them one more time, and if that doesn't work, go and live your own life. The fact that they're controlling is some sign, no matter how annoying, that they care.

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  • tacotuesday
    12 years ago

    Thats well fucked and not akay. MOVE OUT and enjoy the beautifulness of freedom!

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  • Jeshua
    12 years ago

    Yeah I got the same issue. I just say fuck it and do what I want now,if an R rated movie makes me happy then I don't care about being called "rude" and "disrespectful" and all that other shit because I'm doing what makes me happy,but I always treat my parents well and respectful. If they wish to be petty I let them.

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  • Melloman#2
    13 years ago

    thats just fucked up

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  • Whitneyhouston
    13 years ago

    Wow. Sounds exactly like my parents. I'm 20. It really sucks, I know.. They aren't as bad about rated r movies and video games, but the bf thing I can totally relate. I know they just want the best for me, but one day soon I'm gonna snap.

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  • Gargoylechick
    13 years ago

    Go live with your boyfriend. Your parents are crazy!

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  • Elegy
    13 years ago

    Leave out you are mature girl.what are you doing at your parents place?But always listen to their advice.parents dont want bad for their kids

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  • chewy
    13 years ago

    that sucks so bad im sorry about that get the hell out of there asap they are gay ass parents if you are 23 and not just saying that for the post because of the moderator then move out they suck ass.

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  • aduusw
    13 years ago

    I think u should leave.

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  • Powermad80
    13 years ago

    ^^ I mean boyfriend at the beginning.

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  • MercedesBenz
    13 years ago

    I don't know your situation if you are disabled or what, but if you're still at home at age 23 then they have the right to do what they are doing. You are under their roof. If you want independence and rights, move out. Otherwise, deal with it.

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