Is it normal that my parents are abusing/cursing at me like this?

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From start. When i was 14 i was obsessed with games.
I played games all the time on my laptop. I would play F2p(free to play games) because we were to poor to have a game that you have to pay monthly to play on.And i was not against it at all.
We were 5 kids in my family.I had 3 sisters and 1 brother.
My brother(he was older then me) always protected me helped me tried to get me to do better then i could. My mom and dad on the other hand were the opposite.I was doing excellent in school(A- and B+ almost all the time) and they still were pissed at me for some reason.My daily routine were, go to school and focus on school only until school is over,go home,sit on the laptop play games,get yelled at 200 times by my parents about everything wrong i do(by the way the wrongs i did was not wanting to be a Muslim but atheist, forget to clean my room, coming home 10 minutes late and etc).
I didn't help a lot around the house. but i did all the things that were beneficial to me(like cleaning my room, and such).
They still screamed at me about how i am respect less,that i cant do anything, that I'm pathetic. And a lot more,now its gone some years and still the same old routine.I have lost all respect for them now.
I have a girlfriend now and she is really pissed at my parents(mostly because they treat her as they treat me and we have stopped hanging out at my place anymore).

I had a summer job at my brothers shop. By the end of the job i earned 2300$. But u cant say i earned it because my parents took it all expect 100$.And guess what?My dad gave away half the money(believing he was helping a friend)and bought cigarettes for some of it.My mom used some of it for herself,dresses,shoes and such.Well who gives a crap right?All i did was work my ass of for 2 and a half months 9 hours a day right?
Still to this day i have excellent grades at school,expect at English... i have a B+ in that.(thank god for oral presentations)else i have A or A- in everything else. I help my brother still out (not a summer job now) not earning money at all. I go to him and spend around 7 hours a day helping him when i feel like it.I have no money,i got my mom saying i am a loser. my dad saying i cant do anything with my pathetic life,and i got a brother almost broke because financial difficulties,one sister moving out.The only actual positive things about my life is that i have a girlfriend(Wich i love more then anything now(3 month anniversary coming up),good grades, good at athletics at school and good at games.

Why are they not respecting me?I have not done anything to offend them.

Is it normal to have parents like this?
If its not then can you explain why they are doing this to me?

Also My dad used to hit me hell of a lot in the face when i was 12 and 13 but not anymore.

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Solophonic

12 years ago | pl

I'm sorry to say but you were raised by selfish unthinking parents. Get out as soon as you can, get a private bank account to keep YOUR money in. The positive that comes from your situation is that you have learned all things to NOT do to live a happy and successful life.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  12 years ago | pl
  
  I really thought about ur comment for a while and it gave me a little bit more perspective.
  Thank you.
  I consider my situation to be alot more positive then u seem to think.
  
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Josie_57

12 years ago | pl

wow your parents sound like dicks. you didnt mention how old you are. are you old enought to move out

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  12 years ago | pl
  
  No but i wish....i seriously wish it.
  
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Stormtrooper

9 years ago | pl

Its probably because of the religion to an extent i dont think its right everyones entitled to their own opinion but a lot of people take religion that seriously

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circle-t

11 years ago | pl

Your parents shouldn't say horrible things to you it's not right but maybe they would be alittle less angry if you helped out around the house

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pixie_dust

12 years ago | pl

if you can move out soon after u gone you should sue your parents for stealing your money like that. try to get as many witnesses as of possible to back you up. thats BS, on top of the mental abuse especislly when I soind like a good kid. if I were u I would bail and completely write them out of my life permanently.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  12 years ago | pl
  
  I will not contact them when i move out,i am gone exclude them from my life. but my parents created me that i am grateful for and i am not gone sue them. i know that sounds dumb but i cant. i just want to get out. and have no contact with them as fast as i can.
  
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Darkoil

12 years ago | pl

Chin up bro, hopefully you will be able to leave one day soon and start a better life with your girlfriend.

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TehPurpleOne

12 years ago | pl

Your parents are leeches. They obviously care only about themselves. When you move out, and your life gets better, you can laugh in their face. :)

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  12 years ago | pl
  
  i am not that kind of guy. i can not humilate laugh at someone else becuse i have it better.
  But thanks for your thoughts about this. :)
  
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Vetterman

12 years ago | pl

Soon you will be of age and able to get out of there and not look back. Hang in there, you will make it. And, no matter if its normal or not, it isnt right for them to be that way.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  12 years ago | pl
  
  thanks but it is a little though?(tough) dont know how to spell it.Thanks for your thoughts :)
  
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joybird

12 years ago | pl

It may not be normal but it happens to the best of us :o( You just have to accept that they are bitter in their own lives, work your @ss off to get good grades - then get the hell outa there before they destroy you!!

That's exactly what I did, 30 years ago!!!

Don't waste your time or energy trying to analyse them, keep your girlfriend away from them coz you're wasting your time - they probably hate everyone.

Good luck to you and don't worry you'll be out of there soon. Chin up ;o)

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  12 years ago | pl
  
  I dont care about anything else then school when i am at school. so my grades are well. My girlfriend and i never ever spend more time at my place for obvious reasons.And they seem to onley hate on me. They tell my sister(15 years old) that she is the best thing ever. they treat her like a freaking god.They give money to her(that she spends on cigarettes and tobacco(totally fuking gross). She comes home 2 at night!. AND the thing that disturbs me the most is that she has an F in all her grades expect for one!( im from sweden and dont know what its called but its the class where you learn to cook). and they never treated my sister,brother or in fact anyone else the way they treat me. so they hate everyone huh?
  
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BeirutsFinest

12 years ago | pl

Sounds like your parents are "old fashioned" I personally think it's a stupid way of raising children, but you seem to be a bright mind :) where do you live? I'm supposing it's somewhere in the arab world?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  12 years ago | pl
  
  I can understand why u would think i would live in the arab world becuse of their history of parenthood and childrising but no. I have alot of arab friends and all of their parents are very nice.
  But no i am a kurd.
  And i am currently living in sweden.
  
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  - BeirutsFinest
    
    12 years ago | pl
    
    Oh, sorry... I live in the arab world, and I know a lot of people who are experiencing what you are
    
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