Is it normal that my mother refuses to meet my boyfriend?

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I'm 21 years old and have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years 5 months. Most of my family has met him including my mom's older sisters. I've met his family and his parents want to meet my mom and I'm running out of excuses.

It has gotten to the point where she won't attend any family even that my boyfriend has also been invited to (as my family loves him) just to ensure she doesn't accidentally meet him.

When I or my family try to talk to her about it she starts yelling and leaves the room. One time I went into her room to talk. The conversation was going well until I brought up this ridiculous situation and she put her head under her blanket and told me to leave her alone.

I love her very much, but I refuse to act like a 14year old forced to sneak around.
I just don't understand how she can hate someone she doesn't know...she calls him a criminal, thug, tells ppl he's 30 ( he's 25, never been arrested, went to law school in the UK) . She even hangs up the phone on her sisters if the so much ad mumble his name...

I'm really fed up at this point! Ugh.

Is it normal for a mother to refuse to acknowledge her adult daughter's relationship in any way?

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    there must be a reason why shes acting this way. maybe she dated an older man and he treated her badly. this is an inappropriate way for her to act and if she doesnt want to act like a grownup then dont treat her like a grownup

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  • jensapa
    12 years ago | pl

    Tell your mum to grow up an stop acting like a jealous child.

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  • MissAnomaly
    12 years ago | pl

    I don't know what to say, that's a crappy situation. Time.... I guess. I know you've waited and you're running out of excuses but what can you do when she's acting so immaturely.
    If you think about, even if they do meet accidentally or by force, she might be rude directly to their faces which could be way worse than her not meeting them at all.
    Just let her know that you're disgusted with her behaviour towards something that means so much to you and, if you can bear it, tell her you're not bringing it up again. She may come around eventually. Hopefully.

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  • PorcelainDoll
    12 years ago | pl

    Lol My Mother wont meet mines neither =/

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  • youdneverguess
    12 years ago | pl

    Cause she cares for you hang out with her!

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