Well... For one, the child you're having, has almost as much of her blood as it does yours. I get why she may get the impression that it's a moment she's entitled to.
"First she takes my son, now she dare deny me my grandchild?" is probably along the lines of what her subconscious is telling her.
It's not that she's trying to be a bother but its moments like these that (almost) all parents live for. And it's not just gonna stop there.
She's gonna be changing the diaper, dropping him/her off at school and be saving a sweet stash for when he/she comes to stay for the weekend.
It is your call but understand she isn't overstepping her rights by that much. I'm guessing it must be really something to be there from the child's first second in the open and be able to reminisce on the child's graduation day...
That being said mothers in law naturally don't get along with their child's mate though and in many instances may just see you as an incubator... Just my point of view. It is your call at the end of the day.
She thinks that my own mom shouldn't be allowed in for no apparent reason but that she should. We have always gotten along until this and I really don't know how to deal with it.
I think she is greatly overstepping her bounds. The woman seems to lack common sense and any consideration for your feelings.
I would be a little more sympathetic to her if you said your mother would be in the room and she is not allowed.
Sadly, unless you're willing to tolerate her constant interfering, at some point you will have to put your foot down. I guarantee she won't be happy but you have to set up boundaries.
Good luck with your baby!!!
PS- You could just have the baby then call everyone after its born. Also, maybe your husband needs to stand up to his mother!
thank you. I try telling him to stand up to her but he doesn't like to deal with her either. She really is sweet she just doesn't understand...We actually have discussed not telling anyone when I go into labor and just calling everyone the next day so we can have that time alone with our new baby. It is his first one as well.
Is it normal that my mother-in-law invited herself to my delivery?
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Well... For one, the child you're having, has almost as much of her blood as it does yours. I get why she may get the impression that it's a moment she's entitled to.
"First she takes my son, now she dare deny me my grandchild?" is probably along the lines of what her subconscious is telling her.
It's not that she's trying to be a bother but its moments like these that (almost) all parents live for. And it's not just gonna stop there.
She's gonna be changing the diaper, dropping him/her off at school and be saving a sweet stash for when he/she comes to stay for the weekend.
It is your call but understand she isn't overstepping her rights by that much. I'm guessing it must be really something to be there from the child's first second in the open and be able to reminisce on the child's graduation day...
That being said mothers in law naturally don't get along with their child's mate though and in many instances may just see you as an incubator... Just my point of view. It is your call at the end of the day.
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She thinks that my own mom shouldn't be allowed in for no apparent reason but that she should. We have always gotten along until this and I really don't know how to deal with it.
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I think she is greatly overstepping her bounds. The woman seems to lack common sense and any consideration for your feelings.
I would be a little more sympathetic to her if you said your mother would be in the room and she is not allowed.
Sadly, unless you're willing to tolerate her constant interfering, at some point you will have to put your foot down. I guarantee she won't be happy but you have to set up boundaries.
Good luck with your baby!!!
PS- You could just have the baby then call everyone after its born. Also, maybe your husband needs to stand up to his mother!
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thank you. I try telling him to stand up to her but he doesn't like to deal with her either. She really is sweet she just doesn't understand...We actually have discussed not telling anyone when I go into labor and just calling everyone the next day so we can have that time alone with our new baby. It is his first one as well.
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Honestly, I think that's the best idea yet!!!