Is your mother an alcoholic? This is pretty typical of women with an addict's insensitivity to boundaries.
Seriously, if she knows you're not ok with this and she won't stop you're being sexually abused. Would it be so different if your dad "accidentally" caught you in the shower - several times?
If you have access to medical care you might consult with a psychologist or addiction medicine specialist to discuss your options. Don't take responsibility for her behavior yourself - you are the less powerful member of this relationship.
Until you have a fix, get a lock on your door and sleep in pajamas. I encountered a similar case a few years ago where Mom decided to "teach" her daughter what it would be like "when a boy goes down on you."
Does your mother ever urge you to go topless, or skinny-dip? Does she ask EXTREMELY personal questions or take an undue interest in whether you're a virgin or if you masturbate? These are things to look out for, too.
If she's truly a hippy then she would know that mutuality is really important here and that just because nudity is not shameful it doesn't mean her son has to be exposed to it - the important message being that you BOTH need to be comfortable in the situation.
Like with anything, if you said no and the other person continued it is not respecting you. Point out once again to your mother that if she wants to be naked she can do it only when she is alone at home, i.e. not in front of you, and that she is not respecting your freedom by invading your privacy.
If she doesn't like that, go see a counsellor like Evilcor said. She might be selectively using 'free spirit' ideology as an excuse for abusive behaviour. Or she might not understand the problem. Either way, you have the right to set boundaries for yourself.
Sorry Ingrid, I assumed you'd be a boy I could be wrong. I also don't want you to stress out. But at the same time I think you're at an age where learning to set safe boundaries is an important skill. Your mother needs to help with that, even if being grossed out by her nudity is just you being 'uptight' it's still your boundary.
Is it normal that my mom walks around the house naked?
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Is your mother an alcoholic? This is pretty typical of women with an addict's insensitivity to boundaries.
Seriously, if she knows you're not ok with this and she won't stop you're being sexually abused. Would it be so different if your dad "accidentally" caught you in the shower - several times?
If you have access to medical care you might consult with a psychologist or addiction medicine specialist to discuss your options. Don't take responsibility for her behavior yourself - you are the less powerful member of this relationship.
Until you have a fix, get a lock on your door and sleep in pajamas. I encountered a similar case a few years ago where Mom decided to "teach" her daughter what it would be like "when a boy goes down on you."
Does your mother ever urge you to go topless, or skinny-dip? Does she ask EXTREMELY personal questions or take an undue interest in whether you're a virgin or if you masturbate? These are things to look out for, too.
Good luck.
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lol thanks but my moms not like messed up in the head.. shes just a bit 'free', sort of in a hippy way, and no she doesn't like to drink
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If she's truly a hippy then she would know that mutuality is really important here and that just because nudity is not shameful it doesn't mean her son has to be exposed to it - the important message being that you BOTH need to be comfortable in the situation.
Like with anything, if you said no and the other person continued it is not respecting you. Point out once again to your mother that if she wants to be naked she can do it only when she is alone at home, i.e. not in front of you, and that she is not respecting your freedom by invading your privacy.
If she doesn't like that, go see a counsellor like Evilcor said. She might be selectively using 'free spirit' ideology as an excuse for abusive behaviour. Or she might not understand the problem. Either way, you have the right to set boundaries for yourself.
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Sorry Ingrid, I assumed you'd be a boy I could be wrong. I also don't want you to stress out. But at the same time I think you're at an age where learning to set safe boundaries is an important skill. Your mother needs to help with that, even if being grossed out by her nudity is just you being 'uptight' it's still your boundary.