Stop paying for the car, save up the money you were using to make payments, and buy yourself a car. done and done. you should be able to stop paying whenever you want to, since its not even yours and youre not really using it. they should be able to handle it just fine. if they cant, they better start asking YOU to use it. becuase NO ONE would be able to without you thatd mean, if no one else can pay to have it except for you. and you seem extremely nice and reasonable about this, which concerns me to a degree, because nice people get manipulated sometimes. make sure theyre being fair to you and if not, change something.
Also, even if you quit paying and plan to get a car but need one for the time being, you should be able to use it and have first dibs since you invested so much money into that car. and because you seem to be the one most maturely handling the situation, the one that was trying to help everyone win instead of just saying its not fair and crying to mom. youre the one thats been paying and then someone else stepped in and wanted in on the use. And i guess if they want to be assholes, then let em. Leave early and walk, or call a cab or ask a friend whos going the same way or an understanding friend that you can return the favour for later. Continue to save your money, and rise above.
Good luck :3
Thanks so much for your kind words and thoughful advice.
I have talked separately with my Mom and sister and things are more clear now.
It would have been nicer to not have to explain myself to them, but they kind of apologized (not really, they explained their reasons and excuses... but, anyway... at least I think they understood.
IIN that my Mom takes my sister's side?
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Stop paying for the car, save up the money you were using to make payments, and buy yourself a car. done and done. you should be able to stop paying whenever you want to, since its not even yours and youre not really using it. they should be able to handle it just fine. if they cant, they better start asking YOU to use it. becuase NO ONE would be able to without you thatd mean, if no one else can pay to have it except for you. and you seem extremely nice and reasonable about this, which concerns me to a degree, because nice people get manipulated sometimes. make sure theyre being fair to you and if not, change something.
Also, even if you quit paying and plan to get a car but need one for the time being, you should be able to use it and have first dibs since you invested so much money into that car. and because you seem to be the one most maturely handling the situation, the one that was trying to help everyone win instead of just saying its not fair and crying to mom. youre the one thats been paying and then someone else stepped in and wanted in on the use. And i guess if they want to be assholes, then let em. Leave early and walk, or call a cab or ask a friend whos going the same way or an understanding friend that you can return the favour for later. Continue to save your money, and rise above.
Good luck :3
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Thanks so much for your kind words and thoughful advice.
I have talked separately with my Mom and sister and things are more clear now.
It would have been nicer to not have to explain myself to them, but they kind of apologized (not really, they explained their reasons and excuses... but, anyway... at least I think they understood.
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No problem :) hope it works out for you. just reading your post infuriated me a little, imagining the situation.