Did you even read the entire thing? OP said she kept offering to pay rent, but her mother said no- but now that the roommates are moving out of the house, she's forced to pay as much as what three people were paying when previously, her mom said "No, it's ok, you don't have to pay rent".
Dude, you have to be trolling here, cause there's no way that it's right or normal for a mother, who has no idea on how to be an adult, is paying her twenty year old daughter $600 a month when she works her butt off at work and the mother isn't responsible enough to pay her own bills- especially when said OP is the only person in her family to pay her bills on her own, buys her own food, and has to use up a lot of gas- now correct me if I'm wrong, but I'm pretty sure that most Americans would consider gas prices to be very high in the US.
Does the mom have a right to charge her? Yes, she does. But for that amount? No, it's not normal.
Yes I did read it.
Previously the Mom was receiving enough money to continue the way she lived.
Now that one or more financial providers have moved out, she has been immediately put in a bad position financially.
Asking her own daughter for support, whilst her daughter (the OP) and possibly herself (the Mother) work out what to do. Is REASONABLE.
Does the Mom have a right to charge her, yes she does, but for that amount? Presently it is required to continue living there.
I thought it was obvious. Obviously not to a 20yo!
update: i still haven't paid her (just to see what she would do). i was recently sick and ended up going to the hospital (GREAT timing...) and got bombarded with bills that, of course, i am paying. i told my mom that i would only be able to give her 250 with this paycheck, and she said not to pay her at all. like, WTF. she needs to make up her mind. i saw the bills (electricity, water, etc) and they are NOT cheap. she had recently met up with my sister, so i'm thinking maybe my sister paid her off. GOD this woman is driving me insane. i'm moving out at the end of this month, and my mom keeps trying to bribe me to stay. she isn't getting all up in my business like she normally does, and doesn't care what time i come home anymore. fuck that. i'm still leaving. if she can't support herself, then obviously she shouldn't have children. it's not my problem if she loses custody of her son, and it isn't my fault that she's irresponsible.
It's good that you're moving out- you don't need to be paying all that money to someone who can't even act like a real adult and can't even support herself.
It didn't seem like the two of you had that good of a relationship even before the whole money situation thing came about.
And about what Dad said in his reply to your post- just because she's your mom, doesn't mean that you have to help her out with every single little thing. If it's a situation like this where she's just throwing away money for things she can't afford, then she doesn't deserve any financial help from her children. It's not like she's working her butt at two different jobs and struggling to keep herself from being evicted. If it was the other way around, with a daughter wasting money on things she can't afford and in financial trouble, the mom shouldn't be required to help out the daughter financially. That's just my opinion. Sometimes Dad gets things, but for whatever reason, he just doesn't seem to get that your mother probably doesn't deserve any financial help because of her lifestyle.
Is it normal that my mom makes me pay rent like this?
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Did you even read the entire thing? OP said she kept offering to pay rent, but her mother said no- but now that the roommates are moving out of the house, she's forced to pay as much as what three people were paying when previously, her mom said "No, it's ok, you don't have to pay rent".
Dude, you have to be trolling here, cause there's no way that it's right or normal for a mother, who has no idea on how to be an adult, is paying her twenty year old daughter $600 a month when she works her butt off at work and the mother isn't responsible enough to pay her own bills- especially when said OP is the only person in her family to pay her bills on her own, buys her own food, and has to use up a lot of gas- now correct me if I'm wrong, but I'm pretty sure that most Americans would consider gas prices to be very high in the US.
Does the mom have a right to charge her? Yes, she does. But for that amount? No, it's not normal.
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Yes I did read it.
Previously the Mom was receiving enough money to continue the way she lived.
Now that one or more financial providers have moved out, she has been immediately put in a bad position financially.
Asking her own daughter for support, whilst her daughter (the OP) and possibly herself (the Mother) work out what to do. Is REASONABLE.
Does the Mom have a right to charge her, yes she does, but for that amount? Presently it is required to continue living there.
I thought it was obvious. Obviously not to a 20yo!
this reply does make me feel a little better.
update: i still haven't paid her (just to see what she would do). i was recently sick and ended up going to the hospital (GREAT timing...) and got bombarded with bills that, of course, i am paying. i told my mom that i would only be able to give her 250 with this paycheck, and she said not to pay her at all. like, WTF. she needs to make up her mind. i saw the bills (electricity, water, etc) and they are NOT cheap. she had recently met up with my sister, so i'm thinking maybe my sister paid her off. GOD this woman is driving me insane. i'm moving out at the end of this month, and my mom keeps trying to bribe me to stay. she isn't getting all up in my business like she normally does, and doesn't care what time i come home anymore. fuck that. i'm still leaving. if she can't support herself, then obviously she shouldn't have children. it's not my problem if she loses custody of her son, and it isn't my fault that she's irresponsible.
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It's good that you're moving out- you don't need to be paying all that money to someone who can't even act like a real adult and can't even support herself.
It didn't seem like the two of you had that good of a relationship even before the whole money situation thing came about.
And about what Dad said in his reply to your post- just because she's your mom, doesn't mean that you have to help her out with every single little thing. If it's a situation like this where she's just throwing away money for things she can't afford, then she doesn't deserve any financial help from her children. It's not like she's working her butt at two different jobs and struggling to keep herself from being evicted. If it was the other way around, with a daughter wasting money on things she can't afford and in financial trouble, the mom shouldn't be required to help out the daughter financially. That's just my opinion. Sometimes Dad gets things, but for whatever reason, he just doesn't seem to get that your mother probably doesn't deserve any financial help because of her lifestyle.