Is it normal that my mom favors my older brother?

Most parents DO favor one child over another, BUT most don't actually want to be that way. SO, if you explained to her (in a rational way) that you are acutely aware that you are not her favorite, but you are open to strengthening the bond between you by spending more one-on-one leisure time together. Then she will most likely want to take you up on the challenge if she knows how "hurt" it makes you feel to know you're not her number one.

Google favoritism, you'll find a lot of helpful information. There have even been some psychological studies done that shows just how much favoritism occurs and how it is perceived by both child and parent.

Good luck.

Sadly, it's not only normal, but cases like this are common. I feel ya', dude.

For me, I tried being nice to her for a few weeks (don't be obvious to bring the topic up, but don't stay passive). Offering to clean the dishes was my first step. Mom wasn't grateful - at first. Things got better. I learned to put up with some favoritism instances (ignorant I know, but it avoids the uncomfortable tension), and eventually she paid more balanced attention to her children (in other words, my sisters and I).

At all costs, keep things civil; insults and blames get you nowhere.

Emotionally abusive mother? Do they do that?

It's normal but she doesn't favor your bro more. I bet he feels the same way.

@solophonic no I don't call her out i always listen to her vent, I'm trying to explain that when I need to vent which is rare she NEVER listens! I know this because she always says"im sorry what were you saying"

Maybe it's because you are condescending and judgmental, I bet you "call her out" a lot, nobody wants to deal with a person like that. You may think you're smart, but the people who are actually intelligent know the importance of saving face.

Take her to theraphy lol