Is it normal that my mom always seems stressed and it makes me sad?

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My mom seems to be stressed a lot of the time, even though there is no particular reason. She always has to be working on something, and she always seems to be complaining. Her stress has made me feel very sad and alone lately. One example of this is today I was going down stairs to ask her is she would help me braid my hair, but as I was walking out of my bedroom, she came up the stairs and started getting angry at me and complaining that she has to do everything in the house. For some reason this made feel so sad that I went to my room and started crying, not that she was yelling at me, more at the fact that I just wanted to spend some time with her, but she always has to ruin it somehow. So I guess my question is, is it normal to feel extremely sad and depressed because of my moms high stress level?

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  • BoredGuy
    13 years ago

    go hug her, it's their weak spot :P

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  • emilydoll
    13 years ago

    Go to her and tell her you need a hug or just hug her and let it out. The truth really heals and it is scary at first but the outcome itself is not scary at all. It is release and she will lost likely feel so much better and you will too!

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  • CountryRoads
    13 years ago

    Do nice things for her to make her see that you care when she's stressed. That's probably all she needs, some recognition. Bring her breakfast in bed one Saturday or make her a present. You never get too old to do that stuff for your mom. Do laundry or dishes without having to be asked.

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  • emilydoll
    13 years ago

    Also ask if she needs help with something!! :))

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  • rach
    13 years ago

    I think u and your mum really need to talk to one another and let her know how u feel never keep stuff in she needs to know how her stress and worries r effecting u and maybe u both need a day out to spend with one another.hope everything works out well for u both

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  • theceilingfan
    13 years ago

    Unfortunately, it sounds like your mom has anxiety and mild depression. Often, being raised in an environment with (at least) one parent with these problems will lead children to develop anxiety and possibly depression. Maybe you can talk to her about how it effects you and ask her if maybe she can see someone about it or at least try some relaxation exercises when she is feeling stress to reduce the overall stress level in your household because you want to see both her and yourself happy.

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  • aussiewolf
    13 years ago

    well my question to you is - do you help your mum with the housework? she said that she has to do everything so maybe help out without her having to ask and see whether or not that changes how stressed she is. do the dishes after dinner, even cook once in a while to give her a night off. run her a bubble bath to help her relax. there are so many ways you could help her which doesnt really take much effort. that way you can both get all the work done quicker so you can spend more time with each other.

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  • Smileyave6
    13 years ago

    If you ask to spend time with her and she just yells and says things like that, don't let it get to you, my mom has those days where she just completley explodes and says that i never do anything, i cried when that first happened but she got better.
    my advice ( if this doesnt happen offen.) is to help her do things around the house, clean your room, etc. Dont talk to her directly or ask her for anything much. stay out of her way however...
    if this happens a lot or all the time talk to your dad, or just try to say something to your mom about this, because if she always pushes you away, that is not normal for a mom to do all of the time. I hope that this gets better for you! :)

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