Is it normal that my live in girlfriend refused to look after my dogs?

We have been dating over a year, when her lease was up I asked her to move in. That was 4 months ago. She has been aware I am a retired Veteran and go away to work with the government to improve Veteran issues. She works part time.
I have not gone in over 7mths at the time we were still on our own so I paid for my dogs to be looked after. Now that the elections are over I was asked 2 days ago to go across the country to a meeting.
After reading the email I turned to her and said, I just got an email and the government wants me to fly across the country for this meeting, can you look after the dogs. I really thought this would be a no brainer, and she would say yes.
However, she said she might be busy and I should find someone to look after them if I go out of town.
Is it not part of the living together couple thing that she should look after the dogs? I look after her cat all the time.
I am over 50, and have been through a 20yr marriage.

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Comments ( 18 )
  • cupcake_wants

    Try telling her that you would pay her for it and see what she says. If she accepts that, she is selfish. This might be a clue to who she really is.

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  • Aethylfritha

    Doesnt sound like a good sign to me. Some people take and take and dont give.
    I would tell her im not too happy with her.
    From what else youve said she sounds like somewhat of a sugar baby. Are you sure shes not just using you?

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  • charli.m

    That's a pretty shitty thing for her to do, unless she specifically had commitments that clash and even that's not a given. How is she with your dogs otherwise?

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    • opnbk

      she works part time, love the dogs plays with them all the time. The female dog waits for her to come home. She feeds them sometimes, gives treats and the dogs just adore her.

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      • LornaMae

        Too busy in her own home? I say fuck her! I'm so pissed off at this right now that I want to tell her to go to hell. As should you, if this is true.

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      • charli.m

        I don't understand what her problem is, then. If she's living there, all pets are essentially everyone's responsibility IMO.

        Ugh I'd be pissed.

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  • woahtherepardner

    I would've said it would've been OK if she helped out, but you've said that you pay all the bills, own the house, give her a credit card... This is ridiculous. You're supposed to be equals!

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  • Normal if she is not a dog person.

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  • bigbudchonga

    Are you footing a lot of the bills/ supporting her, and how busy is she at work, or does she have a lot going on in her personal life, or does she absolutely hate your dogs?

    I think if the answers to those questions land in your favour then she seems to be taking this piss with this, a bit, but if she's got something big on, or her part-time requires a big push atm, then I can understand her saying no.

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  • XYXY

    I can’t say I blame her, I wouldn’t want to look after anyone’s dogs either. If you want to keep these disgusting animals then you need to be responsible for looking after them.

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  • opnbk

    thank you for the input, I can assure you this is real. I have asked my close friends and family, and I thought maybe they are bias, however with the overwhelming answers. I know what is going to happen today.

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    • NormalAdventure

      Are you going to tell us what happened?

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  • NormalAdventure

    Something is very wrong with this. I kind of feel like I wouldn't want her in my house now when I left town. Jeez not sure what you two got going on, but for me this would be a deal breaker and I'd take the CC, kick her out, and hire a dog sitter to stay at the house. Sounds extreme and is probably not practical but that's how I would feel.

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  • opnbk

    I did leave out that I own the house, pay all the bills, and I gave her a credit card with a hefty monthly limit. She does not pay rent.

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    • FromTheSouthWeirdMan

      You should tell her how you're disappointed that she would even ask that. Sometimes people arent thankful even if you make all the money and support their lifestyle. I go through the same shit. I work 60 hours a week so we can have nice things and the wife says "i do nothing to help" (because she has to cook and do the litterbox) 😒

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    • doesn't matter...if she doesnt like your dogs, or dogs in general, perhaps you should leave them at a doggy camp or ask a family member to look after them. Hey man, your girl just doenst like dogs, doesnt mean shes a bad person.

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    • Ellenna

      She's using you and you're letting her. You deserve better and so do your dogs.

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    • LornaMae

      She sounds like an asshole and you like a bit of a schmuck... :/

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