You wrote "he wants" 4-5 times in the question, so what do you want? It seems like you're not really asserting your own needs very well.
The financial arrangement; you paying off the house in installments seems like something that would end up on The People's Court or Judge Judy. It just sounds dodgy.
Have you got some kind of contract drawn up?
It seems like at some point he may decide "he wants" to sell the house (hence him maintaining it) and that may not be convenient for you. He may well think that half the house is his until you pay it off. So figure out what's actually going to happen and draw something up.
If you're happy with him being in your and your children's lives, that's fine. If not, sever ties. I don't think he has any legal right to see them.
So you're anticipating he'll try and re-initiate a sexual relationship at some point? I can't say if he will or not. Decide well in advance if that's what you want. Do you want a polygamous relationship? I strongly advise against it, but it's up to you.
I just think for your sake you need to have clearer boundaries and a cleaner break so things aren't so messy.
tl:dr, Probably. Forget what he wants, look after yourself.
IIN that my husband won't let me go?Does he want to be a polygamist?
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You wrote "he wants" 4-5 times in the question, so what do you want? It seems like you're not really asserting your own needs very well.
The financial arrangement; you paying off the house in installments seems like something that would end up on The People's Court or Judge Judy. It just sounds dodgy.
Have you got some kind of contract drawn up?
It seems like at some point he may decide "he wants" to sell the house (hence him maintaining it) and that may not be convenient for you. He may well think that half the house is his until you pay it off. So figure out what's actually going to happen and draw something up.
If you're happy with him being in your and your children's lives, that's fine. If not, sever ties. I don't think he has any legal right to see them.
So you're anticipating he'll try and re-initiate a sexual relationship at some point? I can't say if he will or not. Decide well in advance if that's what you want. Do you want a polygamous relationship? I strongly advise against it, but it's up to you.
I just think for your sake you need to have clearer boundaries and a cleaner break so things aren't so messy.
tl:dr, Probably. Forget what he wants, look after yourself.