I don't know if this is normal in your culture but it really sounds very very strange!! I honestly think that your mother in law is mentally ill. There must be some religious leader that you can speak to. Surely there is another son if your sister in law left. Perhaps you need to move house so that you have at least 2 bedrooms, otherwise where is your own child going to sleep as he gets older.
I'd say he adores his mother and thinks you are unreasonable if it has always been the way but if there's no sex (yuck) you should not be excluded. This woman needs to leave you alone to get your family sorted out - send her to her other son.
My brother in law is nt ready to keep her with him as she has already spoiled his marriage.problem is not with big house even if we have big house she wants her son to sleep with her becoz he is been sleeping with her since childhood otherwise she feels lonely.my husband finds its normal sleeping with mother that is y he has never opposed her.anytime..and it is not at all in indian culture...My husband wants to keep her (and make me to do everythng for her like a maid.she treats me just like a maid) rather she will nt leave him to stay alone otherwise she starts singing raga of raising son doing so much for them..cmon evrybody does for their children..she is not only one..My husband is Introvert he cannot say her anythng back neither he can stay out of her..she holda him badly and to sme extent my husband is also holding her dat is y he ignores her all bad deeds as he has done in past with my sister in law..
So your brother in law won't help you save your marriage.
Are you afraid of violence?
If not, I would do nothing for either of them! If you go out to work I would not return until they had gone to bed and I would leave my son with them both. Tell them you hope that they will both be very happy together but you are no slave!!
You could always put on headphones or cotton wool in your ears so that you cannot hear her instructions.
Down tools until your husband learns to respect you too - his mother has had her time.
Tell everyone you know about this and make the two of them look very strange but you must remove yourself from that house as much as possible.
Have you been able to speak to your own family about this for their advice?
lol...i shud buy her aa pet dog..no i hvnt spoken to my family bcoz i had chosen for marriage they r not happy eith the marriage they wont help..even if they,they will spoil it completely..i am stuck everywhere..cud not find way to b out..My husband is loving but wen it cmes to her mother he is just a pupet..I feel sorry for my child dat i hv spoiled his life too..
Also m nt working i have no career..thou i m educated but left job for my child..i knw i a in very pity condition after marriage..befor marriage i was princess of my family but they r no more with me.
Often you can get a small dog 'free to a good home' in the ads or at the pound - this will provide her with the love she wants from her own son.
If you are not afraid of violence then do nothing for anyone only your son! Just as she is obsessed with her son. You are not a puppet and if you don't make her comfortable in your home then she won't want to stay. I would say that unfortunately she has the advantage here - but I wonder how long she has lived with you? What age is she and how healthy / active?
You need to get defiant. For example, play your music loud, do not have food that she likes in the house, do anything that you know annoys her!
You need professionals in to speak to your husband and her because this is no example to set to your young son. Tell everyone you can to shame them both - wierdos!
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I don't know if this is normal in your culture but it really sounds very very strange!! I honestly think that your mother in law is mentally ill. There must be some religious leader that you can speak to. Surely there is another son if your sister in law left. Perhaps you need to move house so that you have at least 2 bedrooms, otherwise where is your own child going to sleep as he gets older.
I'd say he adores his mother and thinks you are unreasonable if it has always been the way but if there's no sex (yuck) you should not be excluded. This woman needs to leave you alone to get your family sorted out - send her to her other son.
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My brother in law is nt ready to keep her with him as she has already spoiled his marriage.problem is not with big house even if we have big house she wants her son to sleep with her becoz he is been sleeping with her since childhood otherwise she feels lonely.my husband finds its normal sleeping with mother that is y he has never opposed her.anytime..and it is not at all in indian culture...My husband wants to keep her (and make me to do everythng for her like a maid.she treats me just like a maid) rather she will nt leave him to stay alone otherwise she starts singing raga of raising son doing so much for them..cmon evrybody does for their children..she is not only one..My husband is Introvert he cannot say her anythng back neither he can stay out of her..she holda him badly and to sme extent my husband is also holding her dat is y he ignores her all bad deeds as he has done in past with my sister in law..
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So your brother in law won't help you save your marriage.
Are you afraid of violence?
If not, I would do nothing for either of them! If you go out to work I would not return until they had gone to bed and I would leave my son with them both. Tell them you hope that they will both be very happy together but you are no slave!!
You could always put on headphones or cotton wool in your ears so that you cannot hear her instructions.
Down tools until your husband learns to respect you too - his mother has had her time.
Tell everyone you know about this and make the two of them look very strange but you must remove yourself from that house as much as possible.
Have you been able to speak to your own family about this for their advice?
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Just had a thought. She is 'lonely' she needs to grow up!!
Or you could buy her a little dog that she could love and have it sleep with her :o) Sounds like she needs a lapdog!
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lol...i shud buy her aa pet dog..no i hvnt spoken to my family bcoz i had chosen for marriage they r not happy eith the marriage they wont help..even if they,they will spoil it completely..i am stuck everywhere..cud not find way to b out..My husband is loving but wen it cmes to her mother he is just a pupet..I feel sorry for my child dat i hv spoiled his life too..
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Also m nt working i have no career..thou i m educated but left job for my child..i knw i a in very pity condition after marriage..befor marriage i was princess of my family but they r no more with me.
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Often you can get a small dog 'free to a good home' in the ads or at the pound - this will provide her with the love she wants from her own son.
If you are not afraid of violence then do nothing for anyone only your son! Just as she is obsessed with her son. You are not a puppet and if you don't make her comfortable in your home then she won't want to stay. I would say that unfortunately she has the advantage here - but I wonder how long she has lived with you? What age is she and how healthy / active?
You need to get defiant. For example, play your music loud, do not have food that she likes in the house, do anything that you know annoys her!
You need professionals in to speak to your husband and her because this is no example to set to your young son. Tell everyone you can to shame them both - wierdos!