Wait until your own brain develops first before you make such a major decision. That's 25!!!!
I was married at 25 and deliberately waited 8 years before I got pregnant to wait until we were financially secure.
I think he is in fantasy land!! If he wants a reality check you should babysit a lot and even borrow one to let some parents go for a weekend break.
I hate to put a dampener on his child-like ways but my ex brother in law was wonderful with kids!!! Until he persuaded my sister to have 4 kids under 6 yo - then he walked out and left her. He said living with another woman who had no kids was 'easier' :o( Too right it was! He wanted to play, not change shitty nappies, get up in the middle of the night, not being able to get to the gym anymore, being on constant call, etc etc.
He can have kids at any age 90+ so it should be your time clock that's ticking.
Please borrow one and be very very sure you want one coz you can't send them back and you really have no idea of the major change to your life. Suddenly, it's all about the child - he won't get a look in! I only had the one coz it's so mind-numbing!
He is very good with kids and has done a lot of babysitting (he has many nieces and nephews as he is the youngest of four) and I raised my siblings from the time they were infants and did a short internship at a daycare dealing with regular and special needs kids so knowing what we are getting ourselves into is not really the issue.
Is it normal that my husband really wants children?
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Wait until your own brain develops first before you make such a major decision. That's 25!!!!
I was married at 25 and deliberately waited 8 years before I got pregnant to wait until we were financially secure.
I think he is in fantasy land!! If he wants a reality check you should babysit a lot and even borrow one to let some parents go for a weekend break.
I hate to put a dampener on his child-like ways but my ex brother in law was wonderful with kids!!! Until he persuaded my sister to have 4 kids under 6 yo - then he walked out and left her. He said living with another woman who had no kids was 'easier' :o( Too right it was! He wanted to play, not change shitty nappies, get up in the middle of the night, not being able to get to the gym anymore, being on constant call, etc etc.
He can have kids at any age 90+ so it should be your time clock that's ticking.
Please borrow one and be very very sure you want one coz you can't send them back and you really have no idea of the major change to your life. Suddenly, it's all about the child - he won't get a look in! I only had the one coz it's so mind-numbing!
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He is very good with kids and has done a lot of babysitting (he has many nieces and nephews as he is the youngest of four) and I raised my siblings from the time they were infants and did a short internship at a daycare dealing with regular and special needs kids so knowing what we are getting ourselves into is not really the issue.