I'm very aware of that, which is why I wish to abstain. I was just hoping that it wasn't freakish or that I had anything to be worried about. He has a very strong attachment to the idea of being a Dad and having his own family and he is genuinly good with kids and we plan to wait, but I was worried that maybe it was unusual. Thanks for the answer.
I plan on having kids one day, but I want to wait until we are graduated from college and in a professional workforce.
Being 28 is probably also a factor. I can't speak for him, but I'm starting to feel like I need to have kids sooner rather than later due simply to age. I don't want to be too old to run around with my kids and have fun with them. Growing up I had young parents and they were always very active with us. I have friends who had "old" parents and they didn't do nearly as many active things together. I don't want to be that old dad. Maybe your husband feels the same way.
You're only 21 so it isn't as much of a factor for you as it is for him.
I was originally hoping to have kids at about the late twenties early thirties, but there is a seven year age difference between us so I am considering having them sooner out of respect for his age (but still waiting until we graduate, he will be settled into a career before I am anyway).
The thing that surprises me is that he is a very childlike and playful guy himself. He's a very responsible adult (pays the bills on time, full-time job, good grades, perfectly functional) and he acts in a mature manner, but he has a very childlike spirit so I do not see him as a 28 year old man, that's what makes it difficult.
I think being childlike is just part of being a man. When I started my first "real job" after college I was shocked to see that the maturity levels of 40 year old men I worked with wasn't much different than mine was at age 22.
He's a little comic book nerd too, I have just been having a hard time trying to fathom the thought of a guy that acts like a kid ("You're making cupcakes! Yay cupcakes!") to be in an adult mind set to have kids.
Now I am not saying that the desire for children is an adult mindset, rather he respects my desire to wait and understand that children are expensive and that I am only 21 and have a few years before I am ready to do so, but is it normal for a guy that's childish like him ("I wasn't asleep... Ok... I was... But I'm awake now, do do do do..." childish v.v) to have a mature mindset to want kids?
Is it normal that my husband really wants children?
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I'm very aware of that, which is why I wish to abstain. I was just hoping that it wasn't freakish or that I had anything to be worried about. He has a very strong attachment to the idea of being a Dad and having his own family and he is genuinly good with kids and we plan to wait, but I was worried that maybe it was unusual. Thanks for the answer.
I plan on having kids one day, but I want to wait until we are graduated from college and in a professional workforce.
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Being 28 is probably also a factor. I can't speak for him, but I'm starting to feel like I need to have kids sooner rather than later due simply to age. I don't want to be too old to run around with my kids and have fun with them. Growing up I had young parents and they were always very active with us. I have friends who had "old" parents and they didn't do nearly as many active things together. I don't want to be that old dad. Maybe your husband feels the same way.
You're only 21 so it isn't as much of a factor for you as it is for him.
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I was originally hoping to have kids at about the late twenties early thirties, but there is a seven year age difference between us so I am considering having them sooner out of respect for his age (but still waiting until we graduate, he will be settled into a career before I am anyway).
The thing that surprises me is that he is a very childlike and playful guy himself. He's a very responsible adult (pays the bills on time, full-time job, good grades, perfectly functional) and he acts in a mature manner, but he has a very childlike spirit so I do not see him as a 28 year old man, that's what makes it difficult.
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I think being childlike is just part of being a man. When I started my first "real job" after college I was shocked to see that the maturity levels of 40 year old men I worked with wasn't much different than mine was at age 22.
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He's a little comic book nerd too, I have just been having a hard time trying to fathom the thought of a guy that acts like a kid ("You're making cupcakes! Yay cupcakes!") to be in an adult mind set to have kids.
Now I am not saying that the desire for children is an adult mindset, rather he respects my desire to wait and understand that children are expensive and that I am only 21 and have a few years before I am ready to do so, but is it normal for a guy that's childish like him ("I wasn't asleep... Ok... I was... But I'm awake now, do do do do..." childish v.v) to have a mature mindset to want kids?