It is normal, but you definitely need a stable and liveable income first. I am the same age as your husband and my wife and I are debating on whether or not to have children yet. I have the desire to have children, and I'm lucky enough to make a good living, but I'm not sure if I'm ready to give up being independent. Having children not only costs money, it seriously changes lifestyles.
I'm very aware of that, which is why I wish to abstain. I was just hoping that it wasn't freakish or that I had anything to be worried about. He has a very strong attachment to the idea of being a Dad and having his own family and he is genuinly good with kids and we plan to wait, but I was worried that maybe it was unusual. Thanks for the answer.
I plan on having kids one day, but I want to wait until we are graduated from college and in a professional workforce.
Being 28 is probably also a factor. I can't speak for him, but I'm starting to feel like I need to have kids sooner rather than later due simply to age. I don't want to be too old to run around with my kids and have fun with them. Growing up I had young parents and they were always very active with us. I have friends who had "old" parents and they didn't do nearly as many active things together. I don't want to be that old dad. Maybe your husband feels the same way.
You're only 21 so it isn't as much of a factor for you as it is for him.
I was originally hoping to have kids at about the late twenties early thirties, but there is a seven year age difference between us so I am considering having them sooner out of respect for his age (but still waiting until we graduate, he will be settled into a career before I am anyway).
The thing that surprises me is that he is a very childlike and playful guy himself. He's a very responsible adult (pays the bills on time, full-time job, good grades, perfectly functional) and he acts in a mature manner, but he has a very childlike spirit so I do not see him as a 28 year old man, that's what makes it difficult.
I think being childlike is just part of being a man. When I started my first "real job" after college I was shocked to see that the maturity levels of 40 year old men I worked with wasn't much different than mine was at age 22.
He's a little comic book nerd too, I have just been having a hard time trying to fathom the thought of a guy that acts like a kid ("You're making cupcakes! Yay cupcakes!") to be in an adult mind set to have kids.
Now I am not saying that the desire for children is an adult mindset, rather he respects my desire to wait and understand that children are expensive and that I am only 21 and have a few years before I am ready to do so, but is it normal for a guy that's childish like him ("I wasn't asleep... Ok... I was... But I'm awake now, do do do do..." childish v.v) to have a mature mindset to want kids?
Is it normal that my husband really wants children?
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It is normal, but you definitely need a stable and liveable income first. I am the same age as your husband and my wife and I are debating on whether or not to have children yet. I have the desire to have children, and I'm lucky enough to make a good living, but I'm not sure if I'm ready to give up being independent. Having children not only costs money, it seriously changes lifestyles.
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I'm very aware of that, which is why I wish to abstain. I was just hoping that it wasn't freakish or that I had anything to be worried about. He has a very strong attachment to the idea of being a Dad and having his own family and he is genuinly good with kids and we plan to wait, but I was worried that maybe it was unusual. Thanks for the answer.
I plan on having kids one day, but I want to wait until we are graduated from college and in a professional workforce.
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Being 28 is probably also a factor. I can't speak for him, but I'm starting to feel like I need to have kids sooner rather than later due simply to age. I don't want to be too old to run around with my kids and have fun with them. Growing up I had young parents and they were always very active with us. I have friends who had "old" parents and they didn't do nearly as many active things together. I don't want to be that old dad. Maybe your husband feels the same way.
You're only 21 so it isn't as much of a factor for you as it is for him.
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I was originally hoping to have kids at about the late twenties early thirties, but there is a seven year age difference between us so I am considering having them sooner out of respect for his age (but still waiting until we graduate, he will be settled into a career before I am anyway).
The thing that surprises me is that he is a very childlike and playful guy himself. He's a very responsible adult (pays the bills on time, full-time job, good grades, perfectly functional) and he acts in a mature manner, but he has a very childlike spirit so I do not see him as a 28 year old man, that's what makes it difficult.
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I think being childlike is just part of being a man. When I started my first "real job" after college I was shocked to see that the maturity levels of 40 year old men I worked with wasn't much different than mine was at age 22.
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He's a little comic book nerd too, I have just been having a hard time trying to fathom the thought of a guy that acts like a kid ("You're making cupcakes! Yay cupcakes!") to be in an adult mind set to have kids.
Now I am not saying that the desire for children is an adult mindset, rather he respects my desire to wait and understand that children are expensive and that I am only 21 and have a few years before I am ready to do so, but is it normal for a guy that's childish like him ("I wasn't asleep... Ok... I was... But I'm awake now, do do do do..." childish v.v) to have a mature mindset to want kids?