I see your point and agree that extra stress can make a person lash out but I think the way this guy is acting is well beyond a simple freakout. You have to have a serious lack of respect for your partner, and a really detached position from the child/childcare, to do what he's doing. Even if she did just go get a job, it's not going to fix his problems.
Well I don't think we will know 100% so all we can do is offer suggestions of what we think is most likely.
I personally think it is the job part from what she's said and possibly him having to take up more work due to it that's the cause, and he blames her for that. I don't think something like this would just be a one arguement and move on with it issue, I think it'll continue to agitate him for as long as it goes on.
I definetly agree that he's lost respect for her but I think that's only really going to be sorted if she takes on some work to bring in income, just telling him he's being disrespectful won't stop what triggeres what makes him lose respect for her.
Well she gives the impression this has only started since she quit her job. I may be wrong and if I am then pretty much everything I've said can gladly be chucked out the window but if I'm right I think it's fair to say it's likely the cause of the new attitude he has.
That's assuming we have all the necessary info in this, though. You know what it's like, we end up just getting half the story and have to read between the lines to get a little more. Lol.
How you been anyway? Long time no see. IIN still the same or have most of the old regulars left? :)
I've been ok. Honestly not great but just ok, getting by. How have you been? I come here a few times a week, jeez there's only a few regulars I recognize anymore.
Life troubles? I won't pretend to know your situation, best I can do is wish you luck in getting up whatever hill you're powering up to. :/
Not to be insensitive to your situation but I'm doing great. Got a new partner since the last disaster of a relationship and she's just right for me, met some new friends, one of them is team leader/bosses right hand man, and I've been feeding him ideas for him to go to the boss with and so much has changed, making my job easier, making the bosses job easier, and getting me and a few on the team pretty much double pay with little to no extra work, so I feel like I'm being appreciated for that.
So life for me is pretty good. :)
I rarely come on here anymore but there's a few I remember and still see. :)
It's not insensitive at all, I am glad to hear you are doing well! You deserve it. We've butted heads in the past but I always thought well of you, you are an intelligent, dashingly handsome young man with a ton of potential and it's great to see you happy and working it.
My life is kinda upside down now but I think the worst is over and the end is in sight. The shit part of it was I had to move unexpectedly and I hate where I live now, my kids had to change schools, it was a real blow because we were supposed to be buying our old house but we got fucked over. Now we live in this little apartment in a touristy town looking for a house to buy and it's just such slow going. My husband got hurt at work and he has been in a fight with them to get medical care and retraining, they don't want to do anything for him at all. All my bills are late but there's nothing I can do about it. It's all going to work out but it's hard living the day to day crap waiting for this to wrap up.
Oh yes, we certainly have. I remember when I knew you responded I was like, Damnit! Now I got a challenge! You did put me in my place a good few times. Haha.
Sounds like you're right in the middle of then worst situation but it sounds like it couldn't get any worse, which maybe is a good thing, nowhere to go but up now. I doubt it's gonna be easy but deffo think someone like yourself will be able to kick this situations ass royally.
Really sorry to hear about your situation but I'm sure you'll get through to the other side into the happy lane.
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I see your point and agree that extra stress can make a person lash out but I think the way this guy is acting is well beyond a simple freakout. You have to have a serious lack of respect for your partner, and a really detached position from the child/childcare, to do what he's doing. Even if she did just go get a job, it's not going to fix his problems.
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Well I don't think we will know 100% so all we can do is offer suggestions of what we think is most likely.
I personally think it is the job part from what she's said and possibly him having to take up more work due to it that's the cause, and he blames her for that. I don't think something like this would just be a one arguement and move on with it issue, I think it'll continue to agitate him for as long as it goes on.
I definetly agree that he's lost respect for her but I think that's only really going to be sorted if she takes on some work to bring in income, just telling him he's being disrespectful won't stop what triggeres what makes him lose respect for her.
Well she gives the impression this has only started since she quit her job. I may be wrong and if I am then pretty much everything I've said can gladly be chucked out the window but if I'm right I think it's fair to say it's likely the cause of the new attitude he has.
That's assuming we have all the necessary info in this, though. You know what it's like, we end up just getting half the story and have to read between the lines to get a little more. Lol.
How you been anyway? Long time no see. IIN still the same or have most of the old regulars left? :)
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I've been ok. Honestly not great but just ok, getting by. How have you been? I come here a few times a week, jeez there's only a few regulars I recognize anymore.
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Life troubles? I won't pretend to know your situation, best I can do is wish you luck in getting up whatever hill you're powering up to. :/
Not to be insensitive to your situation but I'm doing great. Got a new partner since the last disaster of a relationship and she's just right for me, met some new friends, one of them is team leader/bosses right hand man, and I've been feeding him ideas for him to go to the boss with and so much has changed, making my job easier, making the bosses job easier, and getting me and a few on the team pretty much double pay with little to no extra work, so I feel like I'm being appreciated for that.
So life for me is pretty good. :)
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It's not insensitive at all, I am glad to hear you are doing well! You deserve it. We've butted heads in the past but I always thought well of you, you are an intelligent, dashingly handsome young man with a ton of potential and it's great to see you happy and working it.
My life is kinda upside down now but I think the worst is over and the end is in sight. The shit part of it was I had to move unexpectedly and I hate where I live now, my kids had to change schools, it was a real blow because we were supposed to be buying our old house but we got fucked over. Now we live in this little apartment in a touristy town looking for a house to buy and it's just such slow going. My husband got hurt at work and he has been in a fight with them to get medical care and retraining, they don't want to do anything for him at all. All my bills are late but there's nothing I can do about it. It's all going to work out but it's hard living the day to day crap waiting for this to wrap up.
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Oh yes, we certainly have. I remember when I knew you responded I was like, Damnit! Now I got a challenge! You did put me in my place a good few times. Haha.
Sounds like you're right in the middle of then worst situation but it sounds like it couldn't get any worse, which maybe is a good thing, nowhere to go but up now. I doubt it's gonna be easy but deffo think someone like yourself will be able to kick this situations ass royally.
Really sorry to hear about your situation but I'm sure you'll get through to the other side into the happy lane.