Is it normal that my girlfriend won't dirty talk on the phone

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well im in the army so i am away a lot of the time. And I get really horney and I want to wank over my girlfriend, but she won't text me dirty or talk dirty on the phone, or send me pictures! so it just makes it impossible and leads me to just watching porn. But I dont want to do that, I want to wank over my girlfriend. IIN? Why does she not do this for me? It makes being away twice as hard.

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  • Bootygopop
    12 years ago

    Shes just uncomfortable with it. Ask her to get drunk first

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Im a boy but id be uncomfortable too, i dont blame her...

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  • Coco327
    12 years ago

    Her man is away in the ARMY people! She should at least try to satisfy you and to support you while you're away. I understand the phone sex part because some people are shy and don't know what to say, she may feel awkward. Not texting you is strange but again, maybe she wouldn't know what to say. But not sending you a picture? If she's uncomfortable sending you a picture of herself what is she doing with you? Come on ladies, if your bf told you he'd rather jerk off to a picture of you than porn, you'd be all over that too.

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    • Ellenna
      9 years ago

      Are you really suggesting that because he's in the ARMY she has to do what he wants even if it goes against her own values?

      Presumably he wants a nude picture of her to wank over: why should she do this when she doesn't want to? She's very wise to not put such things out on the net where they stay for ever and can be misused.

      What's wrong with his imagination that he has to have these things to get off? He can surely just close his eyes and imagine she's there?

      He sounds very immature and so are you, she's the grownup I reckon

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  • GrimDoll
    12 years ago

    Some people are just not as open with their sexuality and they become inhibited. You should explain to her how much you would like her to do this with you. Let her know that she can trust you to be open with you. A relationship is give and take. You're not asking her to do anything harmful so she really needs to understand that you can make an intimate connection by having phone sex or even by sexting while you're away, it's healthy and definitely fun.

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  • cold.peanut.man
    9 years ago

    maybe she is affraid that ur phone is going to get hacked and people are going to see the picture(s) and/or conversation(s)

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  • ishitpandas
    12 years ago

    I hate that shit ha

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  • BritishBen
    12 years ago

    Hi thanks for all the comments. The thing is, she doesn't know i watched porn, maybe if she did, she might text me, but she could also go crazy! I really do love her, ditching her isn't something id dream of doing. I have a whole load of sexual drive in me, and i cant express it to her, Dirty talking is how i say how and where and when i wanna do it. Im a domminating guy, but she wont let me dominate? does this make sense?

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    • Ellenna
      9 years ago

      If you like to dominate and she doesn't like to be dominated, what are you doing together? You're trying to change her into what you want and you don't have that right. That's not love, my friend, that's delusion that if you hassle her enough she'll change into what you want to love.

      Can you express your sexual drive by email, even if you don't actually send them to her? You seem fixated on getting satisfaction within very rigid parameters based on her total cooperation in activities she doesn't want to do; sorry to say it, but this just isn't going to work.

      Which part of her "no" don't you understand?

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  • BritishBen
    12 years ago

    i cant really skype sex as there is people in my room. I have tried to discuss this with her but she totally goes off the convosation. she is just not interested, and im dying inside!

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    • Akinia
      12 years ago

      you sure she ain't getting satisfied elsewhere?

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    • Juniper
      12 years ago

      ditch her, you can do better. get a gal who likes your personality!

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  • scapetown.VA
    12 years ago

    Its totally normal but yes that SUCKS BIG TIME. Girls are often uncomfortable vocalizing sexual desires. on the other side of that I know of at least one instance where a girl I was seeing was ashamed when we tried to sex-skype(or whatever)because she had previously been a "cyber slut" (her words, not mine).

    I would recommend letting her know how important it is to you, that will either change her mind or it won't.

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    • regisphilbin
      9 years ago

      funneh

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  • FocoUS
    12 years ago

    You could ask her why she doesn't like it.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    my fiance whont do it eather hes in england.... but we get on skype and we masturbate like crazy for one another... just tell her how u feel... sounds like u love her so try skype like me n my boo!

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