Is it normal that my girlfriend is not into anal sex?

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My girlfriend is really against anal sex. She believes that things should not go inside something that's supposed to be an exit, especially when it comes to her body.

I have never met a girl who was so against it. I ve met girls who have had bad experiences with it and after i had anal sex with them they would like it, however this girl is completely against and gets really mad when I talk to her about it.

Why is it so?
Was she somehow abused earlier in her life by a family member?
Or something happened?

any input would be great!

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  • Welshfaye
    10 years ago | pl

    I never used to do it-now I do very often. For me it's always tough-all the advice on slow and lubey doesn't help me. Certain physical things do but think they're unique to me. The way I learnt to almost enjoy it was just enjoying the natural submissiveness of it. That said if you do convince her-remember that different positions really affect how tough it can be!

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  • lc1988
    11 years ago | pl

    Well you see, I am one of those girls. I never understood why straight men want to fuck girls like fags do but that's just me. I used to tell my bf when he would ask to go find a gay dude and stick it in his ass. That being said, I've kinda softened on the topic and might be willing to try it with him but I'm not thrilled. Sex should be enjoyable for both parties.

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    • analsexonly
      7 years ago | pl

      You sound like a real charmer, calling gay men "fags" and equating a sex act that can be enjoyed by any gender as something negative because gay men do it. Gay men also engage in oral sex and kiss each other—should heterosexual men stop wanting to do those things as well?

      You're also making the mistake of assuming that anal sex is not enjoyable for women and is only something done for the sake of men. This is false. It's a misconception that comes from the fact many men don't know how to have anal sex and just try to stick it in like with a pussy, when in reality anal (especially when first trying it) requires more foreplay than any other form of sex, and warmup with lubricated fingers to gradually open you up before you're ready to have sex. If you warm up properly and try it with lube and good technique, along with your fingers on your clit throughout, there's a good chance you're going to have one of the best orgasms of your life from it. Plenty of women love anal, quite a few prefer it, and a surprisingly high number can only orgasm with something in her ass. If it hurts, you're doing it wrong—simple as that. The reality is that women are in fact built to enjoy anal sex, most people just don't take advantage of that fact.

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  • fatok
    2 years ago | pl

    Let her peg your ass first. Show her how to take a hard cock up the ass then give it to her.

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  • girlsassman
    10 years ago | pl

    Hope you find some occasion to get her to try it. tell her to try it first the make up her mind after the trial... She may not know what she is missing!
    Please, should she say yes to a trial, DO IT SLOWLY VERY WELL AND JUST FOR HER!!!

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  • beastie
    11 years ago | pl

    I agree 100% with lc1988!

    I am not saying anal sex is wrong (although I am not into it myself), but you do know it can help spread disease (you have to be SUPER-careful with hygiene and never, never go onto vaginal sex straight after anal without washing very carefully or you will give her infection).

    Also, if you practice this a lot, her anal walls will weaken and it can lead to incontinence - look it up. The anus was never meant for this type of activity, that's why it can lead to trouble.

    But the most important thing here, is that your girlfriend does NOT want to participate in this with you, so it's time for you to stop pressurising her. Unless anal sex is more important to you than she is, in which case you need to let her go....

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago | pl

      I don't think he is necessarily implying in any way that he is pressuring her. He was just asking why some girls don't enjoy. No need to jump to conclusions and make crazy assumptions. You are creating more drama than there should be. Your whole post could just be summarized in your opening statement "i 100% percent agree with lc1988". This is where you should have stopped.

      Anyway now as far anal sex goes. I also believe it's a mental thing but dont rule out the possibility of bad experience and she is just not really cool about talking it with you just yet. Give it sometime and figure out if there is really a big reason behind her distaste for anal sex. I also have never met a girl who was against it or at least willing to try it. Good Luck

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      • beastie
        11 years ago | pl

        LOL anyone who tries to answer OP's question will be making assumptions won't they? How else could we guess at what's going through the mind of someone we've never met? :)

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      • beastie
        11 years ago | pl

        No way should I have stopped after the first sentence as I also gave valuable health info (I worked in the field).

        Anyway, my "assumptions" were based on the fact the OP listed the reasons his girlf gave for not wanting it. Sounds like he got a full and final answer.

        "Gets really mad when I talk to her about it" says to me he didn't ask her once and let it alone = possible pressure.

        OP also refers to fact exes didn't want it but then liked it with him when they tried. So he got them to go from not wanting it to giving in. Sounds like he's applying same "persuasive tactics" to latest girl.

        If anal is so important just find a girl who's into it from the get-go. Less hassle all around, right?

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          11 years ago | pl

          You can't make assumptions when you don't know the people or the details of the situation. From what I understand is that OP's question was pretty straight forward and making assumptions based on what OP posted, that have nothing to do with the question asked is not necessary.

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          • beastie
            11 years ago | pl

            Even answering NORMAL/NOT NORMAL is an assumption since no-one could actually have statistics on 99.9% of the questions asked here including that one.

            If you didn't want reference to be made to any other part of your life you should have ended your post at title only.

            Why put the other stuff in if it wasn't to be used as background information in order for posters to decide on their answer?

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  • lufa
    11 years ago | pl

    it's just a mental thing...play with her ass-stick a finger in there when she's really horny, she's probably going to want you to shove your dick in there eventually.

    be patient and it'll work out.

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