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The past 6 months i have been trying to break up. She always ends up in huge drama crying and yelling that she cant be without me.
At the end i always give in and say that we will find a solution to our problems. Although she knows i dont mean it after the big dramas she acts like everything is ok and back to normal ,like nothing has happend
| No | 4 | |
| She is manipulating you | 20 | |
| Yes | 7 |
Oh my gourd...She's a dumb twat, and youre not helping... You know what's best for you. End it and be done. That's that. Do not let your emotions get in the way of logic!!! Do you hear me!!!!?!?!?!?
Contact your future psycho-ex-girlfriend by whatever means you feel most safe, and breakup with her. Don't be mean, just be firm. Tell her that the breakup is for real, and for good. Tell her you don't wish to keep in contact or that at least you need a break from contact with her for at least three months, but that you have no intention of ever getting back together with her again. If she harasses you via phone, text or social media don't hesitate to block her! If she stalks or harasses you in person then you might have to take out a restraining order.
If she freaks out and threatens to kill herself then call 911. She might very well end up in a psychiatric hospital ward, but don't worry about it. If she is in fact mentally unstable it would probably be the best thing for her to end up in a hospital. I know I might sound cold, but if she's as bad as you say she's probably in need of psychiatric help anyway.
That's fucking harsh. Someone did most of these things to me. It's sad being unwanted.
Hmm... so what do you propose he do instead?
To tell you the truth I've had to live through harsh ass breakups myself. No one's ever taken out a restraining order or blocked me though, because I made a conscious choice to not stalk or harass my ex. If a time comes where I'm so desperate that I cannot restrain myself from stalking, harassing and generally bothering an ex after he's requested no contact then I will have to check myself into a psychiatric ward. I know what it's like to feel abandoned, rejected and generally unwanted. Yes, it hurts like Hell, and yes my heart felt like it was literally breaking in two, like my soul was dying when that happens. However, I've had to accept that the other person did not want me in his life anymore, and I was forced to move on with my life. I won't lie to you I have gone to therapy, and I have taken medication when I found myself unable to function. It is never an easy road, but it's better than living a lie with a person who would rather be anywhere else than with me anymore. Acceptance is the answer to my problems when those personal tragedies arise. It's about respect, not the just having respect for my ex who is probably a jerk, but it's also about having respect for myself too. I can't choose to remain with someone who doesn't want me anymore without knowingly destroying my self-esteem and self-respect.
Sometimes goodbye is the only thing to say.
I never stalked and I'm moving on, even if I feel dead inside... But how would you feel if somebody who said they wanted to marry you simply stopped talking to you and cut off all contact possibility giving no explanation? It's pure evil.
By the way, you never answered my question. What do you propose OP do in his current situation?
The blocking ad ignoring stuff isn't always necessary. It's. Only if the ex starts harrassing OP or becomes the creepy stalker type does does it become necessary to block a day ignore a person.
Sadly I've known plenty of people who were stalked and I was stalked in college. Being stalked is not fun. The gut didn't leave me alone until I talked to the campus police, and he's no even someone I ever dated.
Sorry, I must have missed the question. Well, he could talk to her and tell her he wants to break it up but doing all this blocking and ignoring thing is a bit cruel. Why can't exes be nice to each other?
I've had a person who wanted to marry me break up with me seemingly out of the blue. It was devastating and heart breaking, but it wasn't pure evil. For whatever reason he decided he didn't want to with me and although it may have seemed out of the blue that wasn't necessarily the case, because I was completely oblivious, as many of us are, to what my part in the whole breakdown of the relationship was. Maybe some of my exes lacked the ability to express themselves with regard to their dissatisfaction with me and the relationship, maybe they were cowards for not being able to express their feelings, but they weren't evil. They might have been punk ass bitch boys, but they weren't evil.
I'm simply advocating that OP gather up his courage and dump this girl if he no longer wants to be with her. He doesn't have to cut all ties, but if she starts bothering him in any way he has a right to his privacy and serenity, and he has a right to cut ties, and none of that is pure evil!
Damn this whole story sounds messed up, roseIsabella advice is pretty much spot on but just let her down gently and apologise from your heart too and try to convince/console her that she will meet someone else and maybe say "we just not suited for each other"
she can't force you to be in a relationship with her. just break it off and don't give in. if she threatens to hurt herself, call 911.
If you really want to end it, then be firm in your decision. If you can't do that then it seems like you don't really want to end it
Talk together on how to work on the issues you're having, why you're having them, and how they make you both feel.
Learn a different language and only speak that to her. That might send a message. If not at least you have furthered your education, whilst being able to call her horrible names without any reproach.