Is it normal that my girl friend is too much of a "girlfriend".

I'm 23. I've been with my girlfriend for almost a year-and-a-half. And I sometimes feel like she's too much of a "girlfriend".

We're very sexual and very close. We spend a lot of time together. We go out to eat, hang out and watch TV, do all sorts of things.

But sometimes I wish I had something a little less intense--something in between a 'girlfriend' and a 'friend with benefits'. Ideally, I'd love to have a girl who I get along with, have great sex with, and see now and then; but also a girl with her own life and complications. The best way I can put it is this: instead of our lives running the same course, they would run parallel and intersect every now and then. It would be monogamous but not clingy, dependable but never constant, co-dependent but not DEpendent.

Does that exist? Does it have a name? Is it normal?

Is It Normal?
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  • There's no way your gonna be able to back step now without hurting her feelings and if you try it's not fair to her especially if it's a serious relationship... If you want to ultimatly be with her then I suggest not changing anything, my boyfriend of three years trys to do this and it's very upsetting.

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  • It's a little too late to start wanting more space. Women don't like it when their men change how things are that far into a relationship. Honestly to me it sounds like you are getting bored with her. You should have been up front in the beginning about wanting more space. Course it's kind of stupid that you want that space, you should be enjoying every minute you get with her nonatter what. If you aren't then u need to move on before you end up cheating on her or hurting her worse by wasting her time.

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  • Definately impossible after so much time, but the question is.
    Are you happy with her?

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  • Your wish is not unique. Where do you think the profession of prostitution came from?

    Think about it... hookers aren't paid for what they do, they are paid to leave afterwards.

    You are pretty much going to have to pay for your kicks, either in cash (hooker) or by doing things with her and for her in return for her affection (relationship).

    Not too often are you gonna get it and have your freedom too.

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  • It's called casual dating. But she will be hurt when you reveal your true feelings to her.

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  • time you got some help, you are losing it. No way to turn around when you cross that bridge. To many hard dicks out there to tie up with a slit.

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  • I understand that kind of gf,I got one my self.Grin and bare it,especially if shes the one you want for the rest of your earthly days and into hell with. And maybe just kind of tell her as nicely as you can shes suffocating you with to much love,and maybe if shes the wild type a bit go for a threesome with a guy have no involvement with the dude like dick touches,and after awhile see if she will have a threesome with you and a chick,and just remind her how if she was allowed to why cant you just once,just to help keep a bit of a spark in the relationship.Also don't pick a guy who is a close friend,it will fuck up your friendship,I did this and thought it wouldn't but sure as hell it did,and what ever you don't let your protectiveness get a hold of you/anger.

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  • This is the exact reason why couples need to have their own interests. Its ok to have some in common, but you also need some independent interests. That way you both gave fresh things to bring to the table and things dont get boring.

    Pick up a new hobby or interest and push her to do the same. You can both support each other in these new interests, but still have your own things going on.

    Good luck.

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  • all guys love a good case if yea know what I mean... sounds like that's what you need vase somebody new

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  • It's normal and they call it a girlfriend, not a wife.

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