Grownups in a relationship understand that it ain't all running hand-in-hand across sunny meadows, gazing into each other's eyes over candle-lit dinner tables and having long, heart-to-heart conversations about the life you'll share. The real world intrudes, and sometimes its demands make it hard to find time for the relationship.
If you are genuinely doing your best to find time to spend with your girlfriend and the limited time you can give her is not sufficient for her, then it sounds to me like she's too stupid to understand how the real world works.
Her dismissing your statement that you miss her as a lie is a huge red flag. By saying that, she invalidated your feelings, and that's a profoundly disrespectful thing to do.
You clearly have long-term goals and you have some idea where your life is going. For whatever reasons, your girlfriend is sabotaging that. You can't give your best in your studies and your work if you're constantly feeling stressed by your relationship with your girlfriend. It seems that you love and respect her, but what you say makes me wonder if she truly loves and respects you.
I think you have a choice: stay with your girlfriend and forget about university, or stick with your life-plan and let your girlfriend go.
She's unhappy and you're unhappy. You don't need to figure out how to make your relationship work because you share kids, a mortgage and a Labrador, so why stay together?
Is it normal that my gf gets mad that I work alot?
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Your girlfriend sounds immature and needy.
Grownups in a relationship understand that it ain't all running hand-in-hand across sunny meadows, gazing into each other's eyes over candle-lit dinner tables and having long, heart-to-heart conversations about the life you'll share. The real world intrudes, and sometimes its demands make it hard to find time for the relationship.
If you are genuinely doing your best to find time to spend with your girlfriend and the limited time you can give her is not sufficient for her, then it sounds to me like she's too stupid to understand how the real world works.
Her dismissing your statement that you miss her as a lie is a huge red flag. By saying that, she invalidated your feelings, and that's a profoundly disrespectful thing to do.
You clearly have long-term goals and you have some idea where your life is going. For whatever reasons, your girlfriend is sabotaging that. You can't give your best in your studies and your work if you're constantly feeling stressed by your relationship with your girlfriend. It seems that you love and respect her, but what you say makes me wonder if she truly loves and respects you.
I think you have a choice: stay with your girlfriend and forget about university, or stick with your life-plan and let your girlfriend go.
She's unhappy and you're unhappy. You don't need to figure out how to make your relationship work because you share kids, a mortgage and a Labrador, so why stay together?